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Please help - I don't know what to do.

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missdaisy

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Hi all, I really hope this site will help me to find the help and advice that I need and give me some support because I just don't know where to turn to or who to speak to. My son is in his early 20's and was diagnosed with psychosis about 4 years ago. He has never accepted his diagnosis and still believes he is not ill. He did take medication and saw the mental health team (at first it was the crisis team as he was suicidal) for about 6 months but then refused medication and took himself off the drugs. Since then, things have deteriorated - he has moved 200 miles away and has had long periods of illness punctuated by short periods of wellness. He did have a girlfriend, but she has now left him after a massive episode (after drinking alcohol) where she had him arrested and the police have charged with criminal damage and assault. His girlfriend has been very supportive and was My husband and I have been supporting him as much as we can financially and emotionally (bringing home for respite when he becomes too unwell to function on his own) but have now run out of money to finance his rented property and his living costs where he lives. He hasn't worked for about 18 months. He gets a job, finds it too stressful, blows up and leaves-but in his eyes, nothing is ever his fault and the world is against him.
I actually hoped that the police would section him when he was taken into custody but they did not. I don't know the next step. I am guarantor on his lease (still has 6 months to go). My husband is at the end of his tether - we are both emotional wrecks - and doesn't want him home. I don't even know if my son is registered with a doctor where he is - he says he has but he can be lenient with the truth.
He wants me to go and get him this weekend - my husband does not want me to go and get him...I don't know how to seek help for him, I don't know how to persuade him that he is ill - he even thinks the latest blow-up is everyone else's fault - they were ganging up on him.
I am very stressed and sad for him - I just want to help him but I don't know how... Please help if you can.
 
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hi
welcome so much to the forum
i honestly don't know what to advise and i don't want to say the wrong thing
im hoping so much somebody else will have some good advise
please stick around i hope you find this place useful x
 
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Gregor Samsa

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Damn, that's rough. I'm against medication and getting put in a clinic, but he does need some sort of help. I think the solution for him is to somehow manage to find a stable job he can deal with daily and have him rely on some sort of social interaction on a weekly basis so that he doesn't feel so isolated. I'm not sure what his mind is like, but I bet he has a lot going on from what you said (that he thinks everyone's against him). Anyways, good luck.
 
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missdaisy

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Thank you

Thank you for your reply and your advice. I am trying to communicate with him to rationalize his situation. We have, at least managed to find a criminal law solicitor that will handle his case. In the mean-time, I am trying to get him out and about to improve his confidence again as it seems this has all stemmed from being beaten up at the nightclub by some bouncers.
He is now home with us now (and my husband is being supportive) but wants to go back down south (200 miles away), I am not sure this is the right thing for him in his state of mind, from what he has said, I think he will hound his x and make things much worse.
I guess we just keep trying...
 
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