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please help ,i don't know what to do x

Urban Hermit

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I think you need to trust HIS view/opinion/feelings about you. He is in control of his own life and he CHOOSES to be with you. You clearly consider him a wonderful person, so trust that this wonderful person has the ability and intelligence to choose to be with someone who is worthy of him, and that person is you.
All of the yes's !
I couldn't have said it better myself xxx
 
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so I love him more than anything in the world
and I know im being shallow
but he is so handsome and clever
and I am so so ugly and dumb
I took photos of myself this morning and I looked awful

I know is shallow and im a complete pain keep posting

but how can I allow him to waste his life on me when he could do so much better :cry:

im a shallow bitch but is making me ill
I am HORRIBLE at taking photos, especially of myself. So mine always look pretty rough if I take them haha. I don’t think I realistically look the way I do in the photos I take lol.
 
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I never have liked photos of myself I am just to critical and I certainly do not look like a model. I dyed my hair yesterday I told myself I want to look pretty. So I know just how you feel. Believe me it is a inside job that makes a relationship work. Lots of hugs Lu
 
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Lu,
Please don't be unkind towards yourself, we are all beautiful especially inside.
The trust will grow as your relationship deepens.
Take care
 
Fairy Lucretia

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im so confused
I took 10 photos ,looked ok in 2 ,sort of nice in 2 and like an ugly monster in 6
im so don't understand :low:
 
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im so so so ugly and it isn't just about being shallow
there is a difference between being unattractive and ugly
im ugly
plus im thick and stupid and dumb I just want to hide in my room
 
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Can you tell us what your favorite feature about yourself is? :hug: Even if it’s just something silly.

I can’t help but think that if I tried to take pics of myself they would just be comically awful. I can never get the angles right lol.
 
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I wish I could think of good advice, but I am dealing with similar thoughts. Mine didn't come to me on their own; they were placed there by many people calling me shallow and stupid and ugly over a lifetime.

One thing that helps me just occurred to me though -- whenever you are feeling really down and out, try to stay away from mirrors! I find them triggering when I am particularly depressed.
 
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I also try to stay away from mirrors, avoid photographs, avoid face time calls, or point my camera at the ceiling rather than my face, I find it all triggering too.
One other thing about photos is that we are used to seeing our reflections in mirror image, whereas photos show you the right way round, which can seem strange to us as it looks different.

Regardless of all that, you're not any of those mean things you are saying about yourself :hug: try and think of some positive things about yourself too, I'm sure there's lots of things xxx
 
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Lu,
You have your own special talents
 
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Listen to what @EstherRose94 has to say and find out what you do like about yourself. I seem to remember a while ago that you said you liked you’re hair. Well that’s a starting point
 
Fairy Lucretia

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Can you tell us what your favorite feature about yourself is? :hug: Even if it’s just something silly.

I can’t help but think that if I tried to take pics of myself they would just be comically awful. I can never get the angles right lol.
my hair I guess xxx
 
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When it comes to women I'm all about the eyes and voice.

Eyes because that's where I'll be looking most of the time, in her eyes.

Voice because if she's going to be telling me off all the time for doing things wrong it might aswell be in a pleasant tone.

I'm sure you have your attractive qualities, either a smile, eyes, voice or hair aswell as your nice outgoing personality that we see everyday here on the forums but for most of us personality is enough and you use it very well in your position as a forum guide.
 
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