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siamesetwins

siamesetwins

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I have always hated phone calls but even texts and messages worry me now. The delay between messages and not knowing what the other person thinks until I receive that message really freaks me out. Or if I make a mistake or read something wrong I absolutely hate myself for it, I feel so dumb and want to stop talking to the other person forever. It's so weird because these anxieties aren't as bad in person, but not seeing someone else's reaction makes me think they could secretly hate me or they're lying. At least on the forum I can keep anonymous and nothing feels personal? It doesn't feel as bad here but messaging people and phone calls worry me so much. Am I the only one?
 
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Try not to hate the phone or call but think OH it might be someone who wants to talk to me, also just try and relax your mind and push the bad thoughts out of your head as thoughts will not hurt us but they can make us do things we might not want too.
 
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I used to worry about phone calls when I was young, as I didn't like to speak to strangers.

As I got older and enjoyed haggling at car boot sales, and into the world of work, I was no longer afraid.

I would suggest to try and not worry about what people think (easier said than done I suppose) or clarifying their message if uncertain.
 
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I have the same thing! I hate phone calls unless it's with a friend or romantic partner.
As for texting, I did feel the same way for a time. But I've managed to become more patient (probably because my friends take forever to answer lmao) so it isn't really a problem anymore.
 
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I have a meltdown everytime the phone rings. I am expecting bad news or someone being cross with me. I'm better sending texts as I can think about what I need to put but like you when I dont get a response my thoughts are all over the place xx
 
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A lot of folk got problems on the phone. I used to know the gf of a famous singer popular in late 70s. I'm sure nobody here remembers him but name was Gary Numan, band name Tubeway Army Electronic punky stuff. Anyway, his gf had to answer all his phone calls.

Damn text messages give anxiety yo everyone when you don't get a reply. What you can do to alleviate your anxiety is say at the end of any message something like 'take your time no hurry for a reply.' You empower your good self
 
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Talking on the phone sucks anyway, in my opinion.
 
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this is a subject i find tricky i have speech problems so i dont speak loud enough and than when i do raise my voice i get told off for yelling lol
and i went of using the phone for some time i only txt or i get to alarmed idk x
 
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