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Can someone help me, I need to hear that someone feels the same. I understand this is an opinion and many people see otherwise. I know all the different views on it I’ve seen them all. I am 20 years old I really have a serious problem when it comes to sex and nudity on tv, even the words make me uncomfortable! I’ve had bad experiences as a child due to the amount of sex in films, I’ve had numerous events that add to my phobia of sex and nudity, I have a boyfriend now that treats me perfectly. All I ever wanted. But the issue we have that gets worse every day is his understanding for my issue. It’s ruining our relationship... he loves to watch adult comedy films and I have it in my head that everything he wants to watch is because it contains naked women, it’s like an overwhelming jealousy. It’s been a long time now and he does know what I don’t like to see, although he will still constantly put on the film/tv show until I react and go into this foul mood. He will offer me films that are very clear to have sex or nudity in. And tell me “this is a good film” when the description tells us there’s sex. He doesn’t mean it but it still upsets me I don’t know how to stop him. It’s not a big deal to some although to me it eats me up inside. I feel like there’s no escape, no one gets it! My anger towards sex and nudity on tv is horrendous. I can go into a rant about it and not stop, I find the amount of female nudity degrading. I find it unnecessary and it makes me super uncomfortable, I’m walking on eggshells just watching him scroll through films. I get angry as soon as he shows interest in a film before he even puts it on. I read the parents guide and my day is ruined before even watching it. My hatred is so strong, I can’t watch anything with my family or with my boyfriend anymore because I constantly have to look at naked woman or watch people have sex, if I was in the mood to see that I would search for it on the internet!!!! I know that sex is part of every day life and that’s what people do, but it’s shown far too much, and I feel it needs to be left more a mystery. I don’t feel sex is special I don’t feel that my boyfriend can only look at my body, I want to be the only girl he sees but he can just go on the tv and there it is a woman with big perky boobs and a perfect body. Some things are just meant to be left for the bedroom, but you can just see it on tv, its not special. It’s not romantic. It’s off putting and ruins so many good story lines because of the discomfort it causes. How do you watch any films these days with your family without getting bombarded with porn. I don’t want my vagina to have a heart beat whilst sat with my dad. And yes that can happen, and I HATE IT! I don’t know if that sounds weird? But it does happen, and it makes it worse for me as then I feel like my boyfriend is definitely getting turned on by these nude woman and sexual scenes on tv. I get the same thing with his mates sending him anything to do with a naked female or sex. It’s unbearable !!!! I just want to know if anyone can relate to this and the amount of anger towards it? When he tells me a good film he watched once, I search the parents guide and straight away I see how much sex and nude woman there is in it and I feel sick I’m angry at him and we weren’t even together then!!! I know it’s ridiculous, I know lots of people won’t understand. But this is me and this is my feelings, I need support but I don’t know where to look for it.
 
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I can relate to the tension, fear and anger. I'm sure there was a thread on here somewhere with a similar topic that had quite a few replies from people who feel the same.
 
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thank you! I’m not sure how to work this I just jointed like 20 mins ago
 
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Eh, I had the same feeling for some time, when I was younger but it was much more connected to porn. Porn is mostly based on male fantasies but there're artistic erotic movies like those made by Erika Lust. All changed when I started to read Grey-like books and started to like some sex scenes (but then I use to imagine all having them with my crushes 💗 ). In my case it's caused by being Aspie. If you aren't diagnosed in this way you can be Asexual. There're many Asexual portals like Ace-book or AVEN.
 
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That's interesting, in what way do you find it related to being Aspie?
I read one book written by Aspie from her perspective and she was astonished how sex can look like watching porn. TWE. She claims while Aspies have problems with finding a partner the best way for them is masturbation.
 
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I’m not asexual and I have a boyfriend, I just have a phobia of watching it on tv
 
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Can someone help me, I need to hear that someone feels the same. I understand this is an opinion and many people see otherwise. I know all the different views on it I’ve seen them all. I am 20 years old I really have a serious problem when it comes to sex and nudity on tv, even the words make me uncomfortable! I’ve had bad experiences as a child due to the amount of sex in films, I’ve had numerous events that add to my phobia of sex and nudity, I have a boyfriend now that treats me perfectly. All I ever wanted. But the issue we have that gets worse every day is his understanding for my issue. It’s ruining our relationship... he loves to watch adult comedy films and I have it in my head that everything he wants to watch is because it contains naked women, it’s like an overwhelming jealousy. It’s been a long time now and he does know what I don’t like to see, although he will still constantly put on the film/tv show until I react and go into this foul mood. He will offer me films that are very clear to have sex or nudity in. And tell me “this is a good film” when the description tells us there’s sex. He doesn’t mean it but it still upsets me I don’t know how to stop him. It’s not a big deal to some although to me it eats me up inside. I feel like there’s no escape, no one gets it! My anger towards sex and nudity on tv is horrendous. I can go into a rant about it and not stop, I find the amount of female nudity degrading. I find it unnecessary and it makes me super uncomfortable, I’m walking on eggshells just watching him scroll through films. I get angry as soon as he shows interest in a film before he even puts it on. I read the parents guide and my day is ruined before even watching it. My hatred is so strong, I can’t watch anything with my family or with my boyfriend anymore because I constantly have to look at naked woman or watch people have sex, if I was in the mood to see that I would search for it on the internet!!!! I know that sex is part of every day life and that’s what people do, but it’s shown far too much, and I feel it needs to be left more a mystery. I don’t feel sex is special I don’t feel that my boyfriend can only look at my body, I want to be the only girl he sees but he can just go on the tv and there it is a woman with big perky boobs and a perfect body. Some things are just meant to be left for the bedroom, but you can just see it on tv, its not special. It’s not romantic. It’s off putting and ruins so many good story lines because of the discomfort it causes. How do you watch any films these days with your family without getting bombarded with porn. I don’t want my vagina to have a heart beat whilst sat with my dad. And yes that can happen, and I HATE IT! I don’t know if that sounds weird? But it does happen, and it makes it worse for me as then I feel like my boyfriend is definitely getting turned on by these nude woman and sexual scenes on tv. I get the same thing with his mates sending him anything to do with a naked female or sex. It’s unbearable !!!! I just want to know if anyone can relate to this and the amount of anger towards it? When he tells me a good film he watched once, I search the parents guide and straight away I see how much sex and nude woman there is in it and I feel sick I’m angry at him and we weren’t even together then!!! I know it’s ridiculous, I know lots of people won’t understand. But this is me and this is my feelings, I need support but I don’t know where to look for it.
Moreover, before watching a film. You can check IMDb. There's almost always sth as Parents Guide.
 
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I’m not asexual and I have a boyfriend, I just have a phobia of watching it on tv
Being asexual doesn't mean you are single. There are many aces in relationships. I recommend you to read basic info on AVEN site.
 
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Being asexual doesn't mean you are single. There are many aces in relationships. I recommend you to read basic info on AVEN site.
I don’t think that’s going to change my view on things. My issue it with the amount there is on tv, the best thing for me is to know people feel the same but thanks
 
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Can someone help me, I need to hear that someone feels the same. I understand this is an opinion and many people see otherwise. I know all the different views on it I’ve seen them all. I am 20 years old I really have a serious problem when it comes to sex and nudity on tv, even the words make me uncomfortable! I’ve had bad experiences as a child due to the amount of sex in films, I’ve had numerous events that add to my phobia of sex and nudity, I have a boyfriend now that treats me perfectly. All I ever wanted. But the issue we have that gets worse every day is his understanding for my issue. It’s ruining our relationship... he loves to watch adult comedy films and I have it in my head that everything he wants to watch is because it contains naked women, it’s like an overwhelming jealousy. It’s been a long time now and he does know what I don’t like to see, although he will still constantly put on the film/tv show until I react and go into this foul mood. He will offer me films that are very clear to have sex or nudity in. And tell me “this is a good film” when the description tells us there’s sex. He doesn’t mean it but it still upsets me I don’t know how to stop him. It’s not a big deal to some although to me it eats me up inside. I feel like there’s no escape, no one gets it! My anger towards sex and nudity on tv is horrendous. I can go into a rant about it and not stop, I find the amount of female nudity degrading. I find it unnecessary and it makes me super uncomfortable, I’m walking on eggshells just watching him scroll through films. I get angry as soon as he shows interest in a film before he even puts it on. I read the parents guide and my day is ruined before even watching it. My hatred is so strong, I can’t watch anything with my family or with my boyfriend anymore because I constantly have to look at naked woman or watch people have sex, if I was in the mood to see that I would search for it on the internet!!!! I know that sex is part of every day life and that’s what people do, but it’s shown far too much, and I feel it needs to be left more a mystery. I don’t feel sex is special I don’t feel that my boyfriend can only look at my body, I want to be the only girl he sees but he can just go on the tv and there it is a woman with big perky boobs and a perfect body. Some things are just meant to be left for the bedroom, but you can just see it on tv, its not special. It’s not romantic. It’s off putting and ruins so many good story lines because of the discomfort it causes. How do you watch any films these days with your family without getting bombarded with porn. I don’t want my vagina to have a heart beat whilst sat with my dad. And yes that can happen, and I HATE IT! I don’t know if that sounds weird? But it does happen, and it makes it worse for me as then I feel like my boyfriend is definitely getting turned on by these nude woman and sexual scenes on tv. I get the same thing with his mates sending him anything to do with a naked female or sex. It’s unbearable !!!! I just want to know if anyone can relate to this and the amount of anger towards it? When he tells me a good film he watched once, I search the parents guide and straight away I see how much sex and nude woman there is in it and I feel sick I’m angry at him and we weren’t even together then!!! I know it’s ridiculous, I k
 
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where can I go to talk to people that have the same issue and I can speak to about it 😂
 
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where can I go to talk to people that have the same issue and I can speak to about it 😂
First option:
1.AVEN- asexual forum
1. sexologist
3. sex and sex life helpline
 
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