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I was having a pot of tea out today in a favourite place
there were 3 women on the next table , related to each other I think

and one of them had finished reading her menu
so she reaches over and puts it on my table !

I think that is really rude, without asking me if I mind
and they were not even posh !
I have known upper class people to do things like that
but these were not

I tried to look hurt and angry
but the lady just shrugged
and the family continued with their conversation

which hurts all the more
it reminds me that I'm sitting alone at a table
with no tribe around me

I thought about saying something
but decided they might be abusive about it
as people often are when challenged

seemed to make my hip pain worse as well

reminds me of ' law of the jungle ' thinking
the strong survive etc

:grouphug:
 
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awww thankyou Fairy and Lilac !

yeah I think they would have been nasty
I feel better after sharing it here

lots of magic fairy dust ! :love::love:
 
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Don’t feel bad @Zoe1 🙂

I usually feel bad for those kind of people. They get mad if you don’t say anything believe it or not. Those types of people are always anxious and looking over their shoulder in fear of someone retaliating for their rude behavior.
 
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thankyou Lilac and Hopeful

different perspectives, very useful !

ive been going over in my head possible responses
like saying I feel hurt, rather than telling them they are being rude

making friends with me ? I dont know I will think about it !

:):)
 
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thanks Midnight , yes I think there was already one there
probably a case of someone not thinking what they are doing
maybe I do that sometimes

today I went for an x ray on my hip
and the taxi driver is a regular one that gets on my nerves
he starts talking and turns to the front
mumbling quietly about something
then he keeps turning round to see if I am listening

I tried saying I cant hear him
when he just carries on mumbling !
so today I said I'm sorry I cant concentrate
and then he was quiet
I might have sounded a bit sharp :mad:

when we got to the end he hands me my change
and sort of dumps it in my hand like he's annoyed

I also feel sorry for him, because he probably has no friends
but he is so draining

im also being tailgated by a small scruffy man
that says he is homeless
I dont think he is because ive seen him harassing people
and if he really had no abode
I think he would have been moved on from this small town

now I'm feeling like a horrible person !

:confused:
 
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@Zoe1, I've been homeless and can spot a real homeless person from a blagger miles away, probably just some Mamba or Smackhead after money for drug so don't feel guilty for not giving him anythings, there are plenty of day centres and churches that give food and a place to shower if your homeless so no need to beg, if your genuinely concerned that he is homeless Google (or use the search engine of your choice - others are available) Steetlink and contact them, they will get an outreach worker to him who will put him in touch with services in your area.
 
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thankyou, its good to have your experience
what is a Mamba ?

I dont think I will help him
there was another time I was feeding the seagulls
and he said he was going to throw me in the river

he said I should be feeding the homeless not the seagulls
I did speak to him to say it was stale bread
then I regretted speaking to him

I do think about what a sad life he must have had
and how probably he thinks nobody loves him and that
 
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@Zoe1, Mamba is a very strong form of synthetic cannabis also known as Spice, it's very cheap and strong so a lot of drug users are turning to it as it only costs a few pounds. I meant Mambahead - street term for Mamba addict.
 
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oh I have not heard that and its not in the Urban Dictionary !
thanks, I wonder if that is what my brother is doing

he is a heroin addict , but the stopped injecting he said
because it would have killed him

since he stopped injecting he has become aggressive and disturbed
and we wonder what he is taking these days
 
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Geeh What a day huh...? I do not go out much because of the very things you were up against. I can not handle it. I become assertive and self centered which is not really good. You have to walk away from situations that are crazy annoying you. If I do not it becomes a mess. Responding only lets them have a chance of beating you up emotionally. Well done today on all accounts. Love and hugs Thank you for posting something that is not so good. But you had a good outcome.
 
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hi Jules thanks

I had not thought about staying in because of it
sometimes it means I need to phone someone if its been really bad
and lets face it there are alot of rude people out there

its not always easy to find someone I know to phone

awwww Midnight ! thankyou, so sweet
Zoe feels loads better now !

:love::love:
 
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Hi there,

I can definitely understand your frustration here; I too have been in situations where people feel entitled to do whatever they want and get away with it. I get easily irritated by people's rudeness because I always do my best to be respectful of other people and never deliberately wrong anybody. I've reached the point in my life now where I'm fed up of letting people walk all over me, which is why I've been actively trying to stand up for myself more (however, I acknowledge that sometimes it just isn't worth it). I think in life we just need to rise above the rudeness and rise above the hate, as then we'll be the ones who come out on top. Just know that you're not alone and that if you ever need to chat we on the forum are more than happy to discuss xx :)