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People who deals with loneliness over 25 old

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mdddd

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Apr 22, 2018
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Location
Argentina, Mendoza
Hi. I started joining to depression forums like 3 years ago, I started joining because i thought i would meet other people to talk to, till today that ive not met anyone to talk to, i joined to every depression forums ive found.

I dont have "depression", but i cut off all relationships with everyone long time ago, ive not hang with another one since long time, i get used to this, with this thing of forums and... just getting used.

About this forums, when i thought about find depression forums and depression sites i thought was going to finaly find other people who is dealing with the same.

Any others here -over 25old- who also deal with loneliness ?

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Im not one of those who deal with "anxiety", or things like that, or who dont know how to handle conversations, or that kind of things, just to make that clear. How to explain it... ive just for whatever reason, end up like this, and think if theres other people who also deal with loneliness out there and end up joining to a depression forums.
 
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nightmare57

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Mar 12, 2016
Messages
597
I can say personally you won't meet other people to be friends with on internet/mental health forums. I haven't - and I've been using mental health forums since 2009.

The places I have met people/friends is on coach holidays for single people. It might be different for you in argentina (I'm not familiar with argentina) but here in England you can go on singles holidays within Britain or Europe (Its mainly older people) But I have met a few friends and with people similar in age to me and we have hung out together on holiday and exchanged facebook accounts, one particular person ( I live in England, he's from Scotland) talk frequently and go on coach trips together, plus we meet in Edinburgh and have good drinking session together....

I was lonely (still am) but it was nice to meet another person who was also lonely and go on holiday together. You will find, mainly younger people on singles holidays willing to be friends with you as they are also lonely.
 
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Fancyharm

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Sep 7, 2018
Messages
508
Location
West Midlands
Hi

I'm sure loneliness is something you could talk about on here. People would support you.

I will try to help you. I get very lonely sometimes and find life difficult to get through when I feel lonely.
 
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sadpunchingbag

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London
I am 24 so if you can lower it by 1 year maybe me ?
 
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JCPraha

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Aug 27, 2018
Messages
431
I also get very lonely. It is a very painful feeling. A feeling of being disconnected and not belonging. I don't have an easy answer to the problem. I am sure my own mental health issues have contributed greatly to the loneliness I experience. It's hard for most others to understand those with mental health issues. It can make relationships difficult. At least in my case. Perhaps, I am not the only one.
 
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treasurebox

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Aug 14, 2018
Messages
55
Location
Philippines
Hi. I started joining to depression forums like 3 years ago, I started joining because i thought i would meet other people to talk to, till today that ive not met anyone to talk to, i joined to every depression forums ive found.

I dont have "depression", but i cut off all relationships with everyone long time ago, ive not hang with another one since long time, i get used to this, with this thing of forums and... just getting used.

About this forums, when i thought about find depression forums and depression sites i thought was going to finaly find other people who is dealing with the same.

Any others here -over 25old- who also deal with loneliness ?

-

Im not one of those who deal with "anxiety", or things like that, or who dont know how to handle conversations, or that kind of things, just to make that clear. How to explain it... ive just for whatever reason, end up like this, and think if theres other people who also deal with loneliness out there and end up joining to a depression forums.
It will do you good to be happy. Happiness is a decision so decide and choose to be happy. You can be happy by helping others. You can be happy by doing things that make you happy like exercising, listening to good music, watching a good movie, cooking, baking, gardening or doing your hobbies. Fill your mind with good, positive and happy thoughts. Do not entertain negative and sad thoughts. Again, choose to be happy.
 
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mdddd

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Apr 22, 2018
Messages
43
Location
Argentina, Mendoza
It will do you good to be happy. Happiness is a decision so decide and choose to be happy. You can be happy by helping others. You can be happy by doing things that make you happy like exercising, listening to good music, watching a good movie, cooking, baking, gardening or doing your hobbies. Fill your mind with good, positive and happy thoughts. Do not entertain negative and sad thoughts. Again, choose to be happy.
Hi, yes, im fine, im just looking for other people who also deal with loneliness.
 
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sallimae76

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Jun 18, 2019
Messages
458
Location
USA
The cure for loneliness is friendship, and of course love.
 
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JCPraha

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Aug 27, 2018
Messages
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The number of people who are dealing with loneliness is quite large, in that respect, you are not alone. There are no easy remedies to cure it, of that I am quite sure. It is certainly a very painful feeling, that I can relate to.
 
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whywearelaughing

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Feb 11, 2019
Messages
15
Location
usa
It sounds like you're promoting hiding and isolating yourself when you feel down and lonely which then adds to you feeling more lonely. I get that because I do the same. Unfortunately, you have to break that cycle. Force yourself to schedule some time to meet people (whether a class or a workout class or a group or church or friends or family) so that you don't get stuck in the cycle of isolating yourself. Also schedule some self time on purpose so you know ahead of time that you will be on your own that time
 
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JCPraha

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Aug 27, 2018
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That is good advice. I agree. But it is not so easy to implement.
 
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whywearelaughing

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Feb 11, 2019
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usa
Btw, I recently came across this phrase that I just learned that is called "pathologic loneliness." It's essentially this feeling that you are always prone to loneliness even when you're around people and it's far worse when you're not around people. I'm not sure the cure but I think a lot of it involves truly learning how to connect with people. A lot of us didn't get to learn how to do that when we were young so we don't even necessarily know what it means to connect. I don't know how to do that yet but I am on a quest to find out.
 
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JCPraha

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@whywearelaughing. I agree. It is quite possible to feel alone while still being around people. It is being able to connect that is important. Many of us may have difficulty with this as you say, maybe due to our mental state and past experiences. Connecting is the key.
 
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