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kim0123

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I feel so alone and unaccepted, but the truth is, when out of my home, I am always rushing and avoiding people. But, I feel lonely and that my life is lacking due to spending so much of my time at home, alone. I used to see my family more, but due to a divorce and tension that's always been, I no longer talk to most of my family. The ones I do speak with, make me anxious, because of my sister's new boyfriend, and the chaos that surrounds them (I am highly sensitive, so even hanging out with people who smoke cigarettes is difficult for me).

I want to do more with my life, perhaps socialize more, but it seems so hard because I feel I don't have enough in common with people, maybe?

I am an anxious introvert. But lonely.

I also know I lack love and acceptance for myself.
 
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Hiya. Why don't you talk with your family more? I wasn't clear on that. Its awful feeling lonely isn't it? It enhances the social anxiety even more the longer it goes on doesn't it? I have no answers as such for you but can understand where you are coming from. Being sensitive makes you aware of others and their reactions to things stand out more to you.

I had to learn by copying others how to overcome my isolation. I would watch how they interacted and go home and practice what I had seen. It didn't come naturally to me either
 
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Hiya. Why don't you talk with your family more? I wasn't clear on that. Its awful feeling lonely isn't it? It enhances the social anxiety even more the longer it goes on doesn't it? I have no answers as such for you but can understand where you are coming from. Being sensitive makes you aware of others and their reactions to things stand out more to you.

I had to learn by copying others how to overcome my isolation. I would watch how they interacted and go home and practice what I had seen. It didn't come naturally to me either
I don't talk to my family because of trauma and abuse. My family has always been awful. My oldest sister and her husband divorced, and that caused my family to shatter even more. And my parents recently moved in with her, and her new boyfriend (who I cannot stand to be around). So, I am wondering if I should just avoid them, and pretend I don't have a family, and attempt to go out into the world, searching for people I can feel safe around.
 
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As your family sound quite toxic for you, I would agree for you to go it alone for some time at least.
 
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Trying to socialize more by beginning on the easiest levels, like casually chatting with service staff and copying others like @calypso suggested. Practice this until you feel confident moving to another level of difficulty. Keep a journal detailing your efforts, mistakes and successes. Perhaps even recording your conversations with your cell phone. It's a skill like any other that you can master. I wish you the best!
 
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