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People diagnosed with ASD, what are some of the traits you have that aren't stereotypical?

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psta1990

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Hey guys,

I have wondered for a while if I may be on the spectrum as I seem to have quite a few of the symptoms. I have been diagnosed with ADHD and OCD and also get social anxiety from time to time. All these disorders tend to overlap with ASD so it may be possible that I am on the spectrum.

Can anyone share their more subtle behaviours that come with being on the spectrum?

Thanks!
 
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By subtle, I think you mean things that people don't notice right away?

For myself, I guess it would be things like: not able to make or keep friends; very strict with routines and structure, I always have to plan ahead; rules mean a lot to me, I get stressed when people don't follow them (important rules, such as washing your hands before you eat, rules of the road, that kind of thing); I avoid a lot places and situations because of sensory overload; and I tend to interpret things very literally.

However... like most autistic folks, I also have ADHD. I don't have a clear idea of where ADHD ends and autism begins lol. There's a lot of books written by autistic people that might provide more insights. When I was diagnosed, I really liked Pretending to be Normal by Lianne Holliday-Willey (it's a bit outdated, though). Loud Hands is a good one, as well.
 
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Yes, like 90s_cat I need routine, I don't know how to make friends, I plan everything ahead, for the whole day, I like rules because they give me a sense of safety, I hate crowded places, I can't stand certain noises, I hate it when people are late or when something changes at the last minute, I don't make eye contact (although I'm getting better at it, but I have to force myself. When I talk I don't make eye contact because I'm too busy thinking about what I'm going to say but when someone else talks I can now force myself to make eye contact), I don't enjoy physical contact like hugs and kisses, I can't read people, especially when we're having to talk on the phone, when I'm doing something I'm super focused on it and forget about the world around me etc etc.

Does any of this sound familiar to you, @psta1990?
 
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Thanks for the response guys! These are some of the things I have which I think relate to ASD:

- fascination with numbers and Dates (car number plates, dates of birth, statistics etc.)
- mild sensory issues to some textures but doesn’t seem too intense
- pretty bad anxiety when in large groups. I tend to have trouble filtering out everything going on around me (if I am drunk it takes the edge off 😂)
- difficulty keeping friends and staying in touch (I tend to find a lot of relationships quite overwhelming)
- I would say my social skills are pretty good but I really have to put the effort in to socialise a lot of time
- I like working with systems that have structure (legal codes, number systems etc)
- I love the company of animals and find them much easier to be around. I tend to want to spend time with a pet if there is one at an event
- very disgusted by insects and food going off
- I had difficult talking on the phone in the past but I do it a fair bit of it now so not too bad
- I don’t get upset if my routine is changed (probably because I don’t have one)
- I have always felt different from most people but can’t quite put my finger on it
- I find that people who I perceive to be on the spectrum are much easier to be around than neurotypical people

thanks!
 
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Thanks for the response guys! These are some of the things I have which I think relate to ASD:

- fascination with numbers and Dates (car number plates, dates of birth, statistics etc.)
- mild sensory issues to some textures but doesn’t seem too intense
- pretty bad anxiety when in large groups. I tend to have trouble filtering out everything going on around me (if I am drunk it takes the edge off 😂)
- difficulty keeping friends and staying in touch (I tend to find a lot of relationships quite overwhelming)
- I would say my social skills are pretty good but I really have to put the effort in to socialise a lot of time
- I like working with systems that have structure (legal codes, number systems etc)
- I love the company of animals and find them much easier to be around. I tend to want to spend time with a pet if there is one at an event
- very disgusted by insects and food going off
- I had difficult talking on the phone in the past but I do it a fair bit of it now so not too bad
- I don’t get upset if my routine is changed (probably because I don’t have one)
- I have always felt different from most people but can’t quite put my finger on it
- I find that people who I perceive to be on the spectrum are much easier to be around than neurotypical people

thanks!

Heh, I do a lot of these, too... it's funny, I don't really notice it all anymore lol. I mostly only notice the overt autistic things I do, like stimming, echolalia, and issues eye contact.

Just a thought, though.. often times when assessing ADHD the clinician is also assessing for autism. Most assessments test for both (or, rather, it's testing for a range of neurodevelopmental and learning disabilities), so it's possible that during your ADHD diagnosis you were also evaluated for autism. It might be helpful to look into if you haven't already :)
 
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Ah, yes I forgot about echolalia, I do that too. Do you just repeat words said by others or other sounds too? I do repeat any sound of which I think it sounds funny. Like you said @90s_cat, you stop noticing every symptom because to you, these things are normal.
 
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Ah, yes I forgot about echolalia, I do that too. Do you just repeat words said by others or other sounds too? I do repeat any sound of which I think it sounds funny. Like you said @90s_cat, you stop noticing every symptom because to you, these things are normal.

I think I do a mixture of both. I’m the same if it’s a funny sound, I repeat it. Like, Babylon 5, the old TV show, has a voice announcer that says the word “five” in such a fantastically bizarre way, I love repeating it. I also play Animal Crossing and usually repeat the weird sounds the villagers make lol.
 
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Heh, I do a lot of these, too... it's funny, I don't really notice it all anymore lol. I mostly only notice the overt autistic things I do, like stimming, echolalia, and issues eye contact.

Just a thought, though.. often times when assessing ADHD the clinician is also assessing for autism. Most assessments test for both (or, rather, it's testing for a range of neurodevelopmental and learning disabilities), so it's possible that during your ADHD diagnosis you were also evaluated for autism. It might be helpful to look into if you haven't already :)
Yeah so my psychiatrist said that I show some of the symptoms of ASD but he was leaning more towards ADHD and OCD as a diagnosis. I live in Australia, and you apparently have to go through some other process to be diagnosed with ASD which he said can be fairly arbitrary, depending on who is doing the assessment. He said it's certainly possible that I am somewhere to the very lower end of the spectrum, but he didnt seem to think it was worth pursuing at this stage. I think I do a pretty good job of masking my symptoms though.
 
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Oh I got a few symtomps. I'm in the process of being diagnosed so I'm self diagnosed at the moment.

I am extremely hyper empathetical. If I were to sit in a waiting room somewhere, I could feel every single persons feelings in that room. I also, for this reason, feel things we can't see, like spirits (people who have passed on) and even communicate with them. My hyper empathy masks symptoms like not being able to read body language very well. But when someone is very closed off and tough to read their feelings with, there's a big problem. Cause I just can't properly read body language. And due to me having been through what most people take like 30 or 40 years to go through as a 20 year old I'm really good with situations where people need consolence and help. If it weren't for that, I wouldn't know how to deal with those kind of situations.

My ADHD masks my social struggles a lot too. I am someone who only sometimes struggles with eye contact. And I am someone who appears really outgoing and social. And part of me definitely is. But I am still introverted and socially awkward. Social situations aren't my strong suit. As you get to know me better you start to see that.

So, my symptoms are so masked by other things that they really only tend to cause problems for myself and not others. That's of course a part of the problem with getting a diagnosis.
 
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Yes, like 90s_cat I need routine, I don't know how to make friends, I plan everything ahead, for the whole day, I like rules because they give me a sense of safety, I hate crowded places, I can't stand certain noises, I hate it when people are late or when something changes at the last minute, I don't make eye contact (although I'm getting better at it, but I have to force myself. When I talk I don't make eye contact because I'm too busy thinking about what I'm going to say but when someone else talks I can now force myself to make eye contact), I don't enjoy physical contact like hugs and kisses, I can't read people, especially when we're having to talk on the phone, when I'm doing something I'm super focused on it and forget about the world around me etc etc.

Does any of this sound familiar to you, @psta1990?

Holy poo.. that’s just like me ;-) but such a message would of taken me 45mins to compose. Hi 👋
 
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Hi, I’m new to this world of being diagnosed ASD. Problem is I suffer OCD ADHD, severe anxiety etc.. but now it ASD the help stops. A life on antidepressants..

Now if I was ADHD, OCD, Psychosis I would be medicated for these. Not get made to suffer with people comparing ASD with Down syndrome.
 
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