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violetmarisa

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I am a young parent, I got pregnant at 18 and now my daughter is six. I work in a preschool as well and sometimes find it very hard to balance my cyclothmia episodes and taking care of children. If I am having an episode I can call out of work which is great, I have a very understanding boss who runs the preschool out of her home so it's very laid back. But at home I find myself sometimes getting very easily irritated and emotional around my daughter which I don't want. I try to always explain to her that it is not her fault and that sometimes things are just harder for me and we talk and try our best to not repeat those behaviors. I feel like I handle it the best I can, really openly and honestly with no guilt tripping or shame but I know it still negatively affects her, especially when I am depressed and that makes me sad. I'm trying to teach her the coping skills I wish I had growing up but it's still so hard to see her hurt. It's a very hard balance to maintain
 
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you sound like a WONDERFUL mum to me
to be working and coping with your condition must be hard ,you should be proud of yourself
and your daughter is so lucky to have you i promise
love Lu x
 
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thank you! I try so hard but it's hard not to feel guilty when I emotionally lash out at her. I just don't want to traumatize her the way my dad traumatized me. he is manipulative and emotionally abusive and I still live with him and rely on him heavily. one of the challenges has been calling him out on the kind of shit he used to say to me. now that time has passed and I'm better at not taking it personally and putting my foot down on how I want to raise my daughter. I try to stop all the guilt, shame, and manipulation that he trys to pull on her but sometimes I catch myself using the same irritable angry tone with her which I feel really bad about. I try to remind myself that I own up to my behaviors and know they were unfair which he definitely never did.
 
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