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Paranoid Schizophrenic violent neighbour

Confused Dad1

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I have just called the housing association lady again and she seems very cold - I think she is fed up with me contacting her

She said she can give me no details whatsoever about John. Not if he is going to be moved, not about his mental health team, NOTHING

This is completely contraary to the lies she was spouting a couple of months ago when she was telling us that JOhn had signed a lease on a new place and was going to be rehoused.

This woman is such a lying bitch

Before any of this happened, my son sent in video footage of John threatening himself, and other neighhbours, banging on doors screaming threats etc, but none of that mattetrs

Because no charges were pressed, they presume John is innocent - and his rights are more important than the safety of the public or himself

I am going to keep documenting here so I dont forget stuff - and if there are any ill people here, please believe I am not out to piss anyone off or upset anyone. Im pretty desperate tbh
 
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It seems you don't have any easy way out, btw I was reading the initial post and you say that your son suffers from Asperger. My son is also in the autistic spectrum (Asperger), but he doesn't "suffer" from it, the only issue is that we only realised this when he became 17 and he took some illegal drugs that sent him to psychosis. The point is that one doesn't suffer from Asperger, it's hard to understand as a "normal" person especially when this is going on with your offspring.
I would suggest you take back (of course with his agreement) your son at home until you find a better place, this situation would only keep you very anxious and unhappy.
 
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I would suggest you take back (of course with his agreement) your son at home until you find a better place, this situation would only keep you very anxious and unhappy.

As per my post of earlier today - This is not going to happen. It has been discussed to the endth degree by ourselves.

I wish it really were that simple
 
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my last housing as the disability centre said it's not officialy housing for the mentally ill but thats how it's worked out in practice

with housing priority people tend to be druggies alkys and mentally ill, my fears when the elderly women downstairs disapears particularly as it's the sally army housing assoc
 
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The only thing I can think of is - could you contact the nearest GP to the flats and raise a concern with the doctor? In the hope that it's John's GP?

Or if he's just out of hospital grab a word with the intensive home treatment team while they're looking after him?
 
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i did try to befriend one violent guy in my block of flats after he attacked the housing officer he came round asked to use my phone, phoned his girlfriend, he was saying he'd been watching her where she worked as a hairdresser and making threats to her family if she left him

after he attacked me i heard one women asking him on the bus why he didn't take meds, he said he didn't like the side effects and it made him tired, i thought what about the side effects of 4 cans of tennants extra strong a night

when i mentioned to one friend he had a social worker and was getting dla at a fairly high rate more than i was at the time, she said thats because he's violent

i think the guy should either be in prison or have meds forced on him, since theres been treatment of psychopaths and commmunity treament orders
 
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The only thing I can think of is - could you contact the nearest GP to the flats and raise a concern with the doctor? In the hope that it's John's GP?

Or if he's just out of hospital grab a word with the intensive home treatment team while they're looking after him?
That is a good idea. I am going to do that - contact the local GP and the local mental health team - just to raise my concerns. John is clearly unwell, but my main concern is to try to safeguard my son as best possible, and this seems a straightforward way forwards

I appreciate they have to protect Johns rights, but this seems to be the upmost importance, above and beyond public safety - Johns rights.

The home treatment team, I have no idea how to find out who they were. I know he was getting visits on a daily basis for a week or maybe two - but I am not sure if these continue - and I am never around when these people visit (as I am at work)
 
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Then I suggest again to face your fears and befriend John
This approach was tried, before the attack.

John seemed to hone in on my sons vulnerabilities, and realised he is the most vulnerable neighbour. There were several incidents after this (all reported to the housing) - I believe trying to befriend John only made matters worse
 
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my last housing as the disability centre said it's not officialy housing for the mentally ill but thats how it's worked out in practice

with housing priority people tend to be druggies alkys and mentally ill, my fears when the elderly women downstairs disapears particularly as it's the sally army housing assoc
I think you are right. The block of flats do seem to be filled with people with various vulnerabilities either mental or physical. Lumping people together has no diluting effect, it just amplifies things with various different mental health disorders and physically frail people, all having different life styles
John does see to hone in on the most vulnerable, he has even car jacked an elderly frail neighbour - which was reported - and once again - nothing appeared to have happened

Thanks all for replies. I shall contact the neccesary medical people just to raise concerns. I full well expect no response what soever but at least it is doing something
 
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i did try to befriend one violent guy in my block of flats after he attacked the housing officer he came round asked to use my phone, phoned his girlfriend, he was saying he'd been watching her where she worked as a hairdresser and making threats to her family if she left him

after he attacked me i heard one women asking him on the bus why he didn't take meds, he said he didn't like the side effects and it made him tired, i thought what about the side effects of 4 cans of tennants extra strong a night

when i mentioned to one friend he had a social worker and was getting dla at a fairly high rate more than i was at the time, she said thats because he's violent

i think the guy should either be in prison or have meds forced on him, since theres been treatment of psychopaths and commmunity treament orders
I think John has been like this in the past, preferring to smoke crack cocaine, than take his medication. Perhaps he doesn't like the side effects but you could (before being sectioned) hear him screaming in terror that he could see spirits. Absolutely terrifying stuff
 
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Then I suggest again to face your fears and befriend John
I think this is really dangerous advice.

He cracked the son's eye socket, which means he attacked him with force, it's lucky it didn't result in a head injury.

Not all people with schizophrenia are violent but John is - and is also using drugs which is an additional risk factor.

It's a ridiculous situation and I hope it gets resolved because it's not good for anyone involved.
 
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i guess sometimes the only way someone can feel in control is to terrorise a estate
 
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