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Paranoia in relationship

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Deej92

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I'm dating this girl at the moment. We've been seeing each other about two months now. I met her on a dating website.

We seem to like each other but I really fear my paranoia is getting the better of me. We've not met much recently as she says she is seeing family and friends or just feeling tired, even when we've arranged to meet up. It makes me feel sometimes that she's making excuses not to see me or maybe even seeing someone. It didn't help that I saw a text from a lad to her a few weeks ago with loads of kisses on it. I've questioned her about it and she said I've got nothing to worry and it's me she wants and said that I need to start trusting her or she can't see it working.

I know she's right and I need to learn to trust her but paranoia and depression combined is toxic. It's driving me crazy and I can literally sit around obsessing over this for hours on end and not bring myself round to do anything else. It's horrible. Please someone help before I ruin any chance of a relationship!
 
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wiggy1993

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do you contact her a lot?

because iv noticed that drives people away for me :(
with my current partner when we first met i made a point of not messaging all the time and even though i got paranoid i would just write down what i'm paranoid about and then try and rationalize each one ..


e.g. ''He hasn't sent me as many kisses today as he has been doing, hes about to dump me''

.. when actually if i thought about it he was probably having an off day or stressed about something else.. and when i eventually did speak to him it was usually something completely different and nothing to do with me at all :)


just try not to push or you push them away, and i send kisses to male friends if that helps :) it means nothing but friendship
 
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