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Paranoia- Bpd

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Raychell-1234-x

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Hi, I've not done this before so bit nervous.
im just curious if anyone has any helpful tips at controlling or atleast distracting their paranoia? My jealously and paranoid thoughts over my partner are so irrational and completely ruining our relationship, i have an appointment to see a psychiatrist in 10 days but even the thought of having to deal with these thoughts in my head without an outlet till then seem unbearable, i feel like I'm going insane so anything anyone can suggest will be helpful. Thank you
 
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Raychell, jealousy and paranoid ideas have to be countered by YOU. Every time you allow them to rule your mind, they are winning and you are losing. You have to identify them as irrational (you have done this) and when they come up you have to say NO to running that program. Say "My boyfriend loves me" over and over like a mantra. Or you can use a real mantra to drown out the negative thoughts.

Then you might want to find out where in your childhood this originated from. You could write/journal about that childhood experience. This will help. The writing takes TIME but it's a solid experience that changes your orientation. You have to sit with what is uncomfortable until you understand it fully. Then you can move on.
I wrote lots of stories about my childhood and young adult life, making real people into characters with new names and this helped me tremendously more than therapy even.

If you go to a psychiatrist, I warn you now that they think drugs will fix everything. Everyone wants a quick fix. Daddy doctor gives you a pill and you are off to the races on the medical merry go round.
 
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By the way, jealousy is considered one of the five poisons in Buddhism. It is not insanity. It is a human short coming. The other poisons are lust and greed and anger and I forget the last one. Perhaps it was egotism.
But people have been dealing with jealousy for as long as people have existed. You can do this.
 
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HIya and :welcome: to the forum. I am sorry that you are suffering so much and this is eating you up. Can you distract yourself with simple things eg when the thoughts appear, eat a piece of chocolate but don't just eat it, smell it, look at it, touch it and really feel it then put it on your tongue and let it sit there for a while. As you eat it, do it slowly and carefully savouring every moment and really concentrate on it.

If you don't like chocolate, then think of something you love instead. its Mindfulness and it works really well. Your brain is entrenched in one rut and its about changing that rut to another one which is more pleasurable. Hold on in there and it can work. You can make it through, honestly
 
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I so appreciate your responses, thank you so much. I've tried everything in my power to try control my paranoia but it makes no difference, currently trying the gym & I have a child with complex needs but no difference, we've currentaly had an argument cos I believe he's in Love with his ex and there's no telling me otherwise, it's a nightmare, I try get out my own head but it doesn't work. I will tell your advice and write it all down, I'm not sure where to start as I'm not understanding where this feeling comes from but I will try x
 
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Have you asked yourself how you would feel if he accused you of being in love with your ex? I mean, really analyse that kind of accusation down to the fine print. Maybe if you do that you will see it for what it is.
 
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