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Overthinking and anxiety's stopping me from living my life, what do i do, i'm lost

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Please help, even if you can relate to this or are anxious at all, iv'e found someone i think that i like in my class. Before you think this is just normal butterflies or being nervous. Please know. It is not. I have trouble trying to initiate conversations, continue conversations and talk in general ALL THE TIME. Talking to someone that you like should make you happy, and feel really good and at first it really did. And i definitely don't want that to stop. But now its just become exhausting, i could keep up with it at first but i'm at the point were not talking makes my relieved. I constantly think of the worst, spend to long thinking about what to say, evaluating my every move to make sure that theres no possible way i can mess up. I just want to be able to enjoy my life. not think about every little thing. I have friends that i can talk to just fine. I was diagnosed with generalised anxiety when i was 4, and i take daily meds for it. but i just wanted some extra support, im sorry if this is alot, it just seemed like the right place to go.
 
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your getting anxiety when your talking to your crush?
 
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well we both like each other. but its like every time that i come face to face with the fact that i like someone. i just cant and everything changes for the worst. im unable to be normal anymore. its not like the nervous cute butterflies, i know it sounds alot like it. but its just really hard, i want to be able to enjoy things like this. ive had really bad luck with relationships in the past.
 
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well we both like each other. but its like every time that i come face to face with the fact that i like someone. i just cant and everything changes for the worst. im unable to be normal anymore. its not like the nervous cute butterflies, i know it sounds alot like it. but its just really hard, i want to be able to enjoy things like this. ive had really bad luck with relationships in the past.
if someone likes you then you can relax and be yourself. that means you dont have to think. just do what you feel like doing. be lazy.
 
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It's not really that easy, I wish it was, that's what I want to be able to work towards. But thanks for trying to help
 
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It's not really that easy, I wish it was, that's what I want to be able to work towards.
its not easy being lazy? you have to 'work' towards it?

no. laziness is the opposite of work. you only have to let go and you will fall into it.

let go of work and laziness will catch you.



you dont need your mind. you dont need to compensate for anything. you are good enough just as you are. figure out what you are trying to hide and admit it openly and confidently to the whole world. accept yourself and everyone else will too. and you will inspire them to do the same.
 
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Please help, even if you can relate to this or are anxious at all, iv'e found someone i think that i like in my class. Before you think this is just normal butterflies or being nervous. Please know. It is not. I have trouble trying to initiate conversations, continue conversations and talk in general ALL THE TIME. Talking to someone that you like should make you happy, and feel really good and at first it really did. And i definitely don't want that to stop. But now its just become exhausting, i could keep up with it at first but i'm at the point were not talking makes my relieved. I constantly think of the worst, spend to long thinking about what to say, evaluating my every move to make sure that theres no possible way i can mess up. I just want to be able to enjoy my life. not think about every little thing. I have friends that i can talk to just fine. I was diagnosed with generalised anxiety when i was 4, and i take daily meds for it. but i just wanted some extra support, im sorry if this is alot, it just seemed like the right place to go.
Hi, i have anxiety too but i never went to the doctor to get it diagnosed. However, I know the feeling when you are mentally exhausted talking someone to the point where it is not enjoyable anymore. your situation is hard when u start to feel exhausted talking to someone you like and wanting to keep it up to maybe hope for something more. But you have got to prioritise your mental health first. Do it at your own pace. It is not easy but if he really likes you then he/she will wait for you. Tell him/her that you like him/her and maybe open up just a little bit on your issues. So that you would feel at ease.

I hope this gets to you. I hope it makes you feel a bit better. You are not alone.
 
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