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Open evening and anxiety

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brightergenie

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I'm so angry with my husband, he arranged was us to go to a secondary school open evening, even though we don't have to look till September 2017, as our son his autistic he wanted to look now. Told him there is no point as we don't need to do it till next year and we always do what I want and say. We argued yes and no about going, he snapped that we wouldn't go and I told him we will do it as he arranged it. Anyway we got their the school is massive and was that crowed I couldn't move. I ended up having a anxiety attack outside one of the blocks and he carried on going, by the time he came back I was crying, shaking and couldn't catch my breath, I managed to calm myself down, we went to the special needs teacher got her info and said we would call and arrange a meeting as it is easier for me and we left, but according to my husband I agreed to go so I could embarrass myself with an anxiety attack and embarrass him, he also said that we have to do it my way again by making an appointment so I get my own way, and controlling, I explained that I went as he had arranged it and he still blamed me. There's only 2 ways to look at a school and that is open evening or by appointment but now I have my own way. He also said that because I coped with London museum I can cope with open evenings and anything else, I explain they are two different things London museum wasn't that crowded and I had my camera which makes me forget everyone around me as I'm into my photography. He's txted our support worker telling him he is fed up with how I am, too controlling and he's done, he is on the sofa tonight as we haven't spoke since 7pm, he is also on a school trip with our son tomorrow so our support worker will come out and speak to me on my own. 1 minute he is saying he understand and is fine and can cope, then the next he's done and fed up I'm selfish. We have been together for 15 years, I have had mental problems for the last 9 years it's not like he has known me the last few months. I also sleep most of the day and night due to the amount of tablets I'm on for my MH and pain killers, waiting for a back operation to have my nerves burnt off and steroid injections in my muscle, most days that's my fault as we can't do much or go out and I'm being selfish and controlling. Does all this sound like I'm selfish and controlling as I don't know anymore, my counsellor asked me who I was the other day and I don't even know anymore
 
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Mayflower7

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Hi,
Your not selfish or controlling, your husband is being very unsupportive. He has no right involving your support worker like that.
I'm sorry your having such difficult times, I have chronic pain I totally understand you.
It must be very hard having a son with autism.
Don't blame yourself, I hope your both able to come through this.
You will find support on the forum, it's good to vent your feelings.
Take care
 
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