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onychotillomania and hair twirling

AnxiousE

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So, lately I've been noticing this has become more and more frequent. Pretty much anytime I'm not busy with my hands, I'm suffering from onychotillomania or twirling my hair. I even twirl my hair while cooking. Gross! Considering I often pull out hair when I do it.


But I am more annoyed with the nails. So since I was a little girl I'd watch my Mom and her nail care habits. She'd trim and file and then use her thumb to smooth over the edge to make sure they were smooth. Well, I do this smoothing thing obsessively now. And more often than not, my nails aren't perfectly smooth. So the onychotillomania . Of course doing it with only one nail makes it look crooked. So back and forth I go and it cycles all over.

Been trying to grow out my nails, but as soon as they grow weak, I start harming them. Still, this is becoming really annoying and my thumb pads are getting sore because of this irresistible habit. I don't know what to do!

Anyone else suffer this?
 
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hi AnxiousE

I have had similar things
I used to injure my skin alot and got an infection that way
I wasnt meaning to self harm, just absentmindedly
and did not have trouble stopping it

more neglectful than intentional really
I havent really said everything that happened
because it might be triggering
and I put alot of these things down to isolation in my case
cutting myself off from people , partly due to fatigue
but nowadays I'm able to get out more
and go to some group things

I guess I'm lucky to be able to do that

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hi AnxiousE

I have had similar things
I used to scratch my skin alot and got an infection that way
I wasnt meaning to self harm, just absentmindedly
and did not have trouble stopping it

more neglectful than intentional really
I havent really said everything that happened
because it might be triggering
and I put alot of these things down to isolation in my case
cutting myself off from people , partly due to fatigue
but nowadays I'm able to get out more
and go to some group things

I guess I'm lucky to be able to do that

:hug5: 🌷 🕯
you likely won't trigger me. I'm here if you ever want to talk!

i don't know why i do it. I mean, well, actually I probably just do it because of habit, but i tried quitting last night and it was just driving me crazy. I read somewhere else on this forum that folks with this need to find other things to do with their hands...like crochet. i used to crochet! maybe i should start up again just for this issue! lol
 
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thankyou E , I will bear that in mind
I dont think I will go straight into triggering stuff with you
about self harm and stuff

I think crochet could help you yes
I did alot of tapestry when I gave up smoking
I dont seem to have time for it now

maybe you can post your work when you have done it !

:hug5: 🍀🕯
 
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huh! didn't realize this was considered "self harm". (so, i'm sorry, but i didn't know!) and I didn't know there was a name for this onychotillomania. Interesting.

edit: so the edit here "Of course doing it with only one nail makes it look crooked. So back and forth I go and it cycles all over." doesn't really make sense anymore. oh well.
 
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twirled my hair for 8 minutes straight as I walked tonight. I'm still not concerned enough to stop it though.

the onychotillomania is better now though...except I'm currently picking at a hangnail. Time for the clippers!
 
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Argh! Too late to edit that. I guess this would be considered dermatillomania around the edges of the fingernails??
 
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So I just found this article saying that there are two types of dermatillomania. One is the self harm version-when you do it to get pleasure from pain. And the other is not considered self harm because it's done with the intent to fix something. The dermatillomania might be a bit of both for me, honestly, but the onychotillomania is only intended to fix something. Is this common knowledge or just one article, one opinion?

If it's true, then my first post was not about self harm at all, fyi.
 
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