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OMG my mom saw my sh

Justafriend95

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Yesterday I went shopping with my mom. I was looking for sweaters but couldn't find it. The only thing I found was a bh.

I didn't think and went to the changing room. Did wear the bh when my mom asked if it was the right size. I told her it was. At that moment she opend the and I freece..

I emediatly did my arm up. And because my back was right to her I hoped she didnt notice..

She said noting so j thought I was fine..
Until today when she said I saw and she was shocked that she didn't wanted to say anything.. because she was afraid of saying the wrong thing..

OMG I feel so embarrassed.. idk what she saw. Don't think she saw more than 1 arm.. and that was my good. I'm freaking out! Better she doesn't ask to see again because this morning I sh even more...

OMG so scared
 
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I understand. I have scars and find them embarrassing now. Your mum must be worried about you as she said she didn't want to say the wrong thing. Is it possible to have a sit down and chat with her about it? I found when I couldn't say things verbally, that I wrote a letter to the person, even though I see them regularly, and put it in there. That gave me time to word it as well as I could. I think the cat is out of thebag now and you might have to talk with her
 
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I understand. I have scars and find them embarrassing now. Your mum must be worried about you as she said she didn't want to say the wrong thing. Is it possible to have a sit down and chat with her about it? I found when I couldn't say things verbally, that I wrote a letter to the person, even though I see them regularly, and put it in there. That gave me time to word it as well as I could. I think the cat is out of thebag now and you might have to talk with her
It's so hard.. because idk why.. I don't want to stop.. I just don't know

My dad is going to therapy with me next time.. I hope it isn't going to be awkward.. I know it is going to be.. I don't want this at all!
 
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Your parents are doing the right thing I think. I’m sure it’s super weird for you at the moment but it will be better that they know now I think.
 
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I mean I would feel really weird about it too I get that. But if I were the mom in the situation I would definitely just want to help and that seems like what she’s doing.
 
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It's hard to be vulnerable but sounds like you have a very supportive family! Don't worry about what they think. Focus on your own recovery and the rest will come with it. I used to sh too. It was part of a cycle: sadness, frustration, rage, sh, depression. It would calm the rage down but leave me feeling broken and ashamed. I didn't know how to stop. Only when I gave myself the tools to address my anger was I able to control the urge. You can do it! Stay strong!
 
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