- Nov 12, 2008
Thought I was on top of this - dh and I have children together, we separated (at my request) about 6 months ago, we have been going to counselling together and decided 2 nights ago to get back together. Tonight after a 'date' I realised that he has not changed, nor wants to take any responsibility for change. I spent our entire relationship, which spanned about 15 years, feeling like a 'project' - he said on many occassions that I needed to change - to be fair, I was not happy with myself at that time. Anyway, things changed, we had children, I got some life changing therapy!, and he doesn't like the 'new me'. I am not what he wanted, he cares more about what other people may think than what he actually believes - I feel that he cares more about what people think of me and us than WE care about us. Apparently because I have tatoos that makes people judge me - well, not anyone I know, and if they did then I may not want to know them. At the moment I am so frustrated I cannot believe that I had children by this man. But yes, I know I did, and I need to live with that - sorry for off-loading, am just sooooooo annoyed!!