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OCD and relationship commitment

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Shaun555

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Hello,

I would be grateful to know others opinions regarding a paradox.
I have mild OCD and am able to carry on my marriage and job commitments. My obsessions are primarily related to health anxiety. At times when my obsessions are strong I need to spend time alone and try meditation or CBT to calm myself and bring back focus. Normally I need to spend around 1 hr on inner work during such times, and my spouse feels this is unreasonable. I do not discuss OCD with her as she is not knowledgeable in this matter and feels such people are crazy. I do not like to take antipsychotics as I have diabetes.
Recently I have had catastrophizations that in future if my obsessions get stronger I may be unable to give enough time to my hectic job and family. Additionally my preoccupation with my obsessions may result in disgruntlement from my spouse. In such circumstance is it sensible to separate from spouse and lead isolated life focussing on mental health. Would this sound like a irresponsible decision.
In the scenario my spouse tries to enforce medication that I dont like. Would a decision to separate be sensible in that case?
 
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Rogue7

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I'm so sorry. It sounds like your spouse isn't very supportive. Do you see a psychologist? Maybe couples therapy would help them understand what is going on for you?
 
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Shaun555

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thanks for the suggestion for couple therapy.
I think what I was trying to say was, are there any special needs that a person with mental illness should discuss with his or her spouse. For example , here are some that come to mind

managing finances if unable to work temporarily
having kids
reasonable expectation for house work
avoid nasty arguments using couple therapy

What would be the critical issues that should be discussed if one anticipates being affected by serious mental illness
 
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Rogue7

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thanks for the suggestion for couple therapy.
I think what I was trying to say was, are there any special needs that a person with mental illness should discuss with his or her spouse. For example , here are some that come to mind

managing finances if unable to work temporarily
having kids
reasonable expectation for house work
avoid nasty arguments using couple therapy

What would be the critical issues that should be discussed if one anticipates being affected by serious mental illness
Being open and honest is always the best way to go. I can't think of any specific things to bring up but I guess anything that is or will affect you both. I hope things work out for you both xx
 
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