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NPD has been killing me since 2007!!!! please help!

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momenul19

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I am Md. Momenul Hasan. First sorry for my poor English. I am 21. I am a student of Bsc. in Mechanical Engineering of a renowned public university in Bangladesh. I have been facing a great problem for the last 4-5 years. I am going to make a briefing about my problem. I fantasize, fantasize and fantasize. I do know every ordinary person do that. But i do this frequently and every moment and in every event of my life. My fantasizing subject is not about SEX or PORN or ROMANCE etc. Its only about STUDY. I fantasize that i am reading all of my syllabus, i am getting full marks in every exam, i am doing the best in my exam, i do not waste time, that means always i fantasize that i am the best student in my university(or even in this world!!!!). When i walk through the road i dont feel the urge to look any person around me. I do not have any close friend. I proposed a girl, but she refused saying that i am one kind of psycho. I put my headphone in my ear and fantasize anything i want. When i sit for study after reading a topic i start to fantasize that "i have read this topic and i know everything about it, people around world are praising me for my talent, i am doing best in the class test, etc etc. But i do not do anything i mean dont read anything just wasting my time thinking about those things. As a result i failed in my exam in the last three terms. And still now i cant sit to study but fantasizing always. But i do feel really good while i fantasize though it is now a life threatening issue. Please help me what can i do?
 
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:welcome: to the forum. Have you been diagnosed with NPD? What you write above doesn't sound like it too much to me, but I am no expert. I hope you get some support on here from others.
 
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I'd agree that it doesn't sound NPD judging by what is written, but there could be plenty more for all we know.Either way, I can relate to constant fantasizing and not doing much to make fantasies come true.I think it's about being safe in my case.For example, I always assume I'd be good at something, but I never try doing it, I just enjoy believing that if I tried, I could.I'm afraid of learning about my weaknesses.
 
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Hi and welcome to the forums

Ally xx
 
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All right, thank you. But i am in a problem, cant think of reality. Pray for me.
 
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No, i wasnt diagnosed with NPD. But from different website i learnt the symptoms of NPD and believe me they exactly match about 70-80% with my traits. And also my problem is severe as i have lost 4-5 years without doing any meaningful, effective specially in my STUDY. I failed several subjects because i cant sit for study for a sufficient long time and once i am out of Reading Table i cant sit there for 3-4 hours. I now cant pass my time with my friends who were my best friends in my high school time. @calypso
 
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What symptoms do you have? I don't think that 70-80% matching traits is enough by itself, especially if not determined by an objective professional.There are a lot of overlapping traits.
 
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The problem with diagnosing ourselves via the internet, we all could have symptoms for anything. We can't see ourselves objectively and we don't look at all the areas that don't fit in. An expert would know how to ask the right questions to bring out the truth. Its like if we look at a home medical dictionary, we can end up diagnosing ourselves with all kinds of illnesses that we don't actually have.

I think you might be better off sticking with your problems and try to get help from there. I don't know anything about Bangladash, but is there any way you could get any counselling there to help you understand this?

It did occur to me that perhaps you don't want to do mechanical engineering, but felt you had to do it as your family had spent money training you and you felt guilty if you said no? Sometimes our minds play tricks when we are actually trying to avoid something but don't feel able to. I could be totally wrong of course, it was just a thought.
 
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