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Sep 8, 2008
Hey there i'm ellis and i'm 20, i just wanted some advice. I have very recently (in the last couple of days) been diagnosed with depression, after 3 years of trying shrug it off without seeking medical advice. I am sposed to be off to university in two weeks but i am dreading it, i'm not sure if i really want to go and if i can cope with my depression on my own without the support of my family because i quite often have suicidal thoughts and i need them there. I used to be a very confident person but in the past couple of years i have lost my confidence and find it hard to socialise with people i'm not familiar with let alone approach women. I live in a small town in the country and have a small group of mates almost exclusively male. And this is where my problem lies, i feel if i don't go to uni i will be stuck with my small group of mates and not be able to socialise with women and ultimately find a girlfreind. I feel like if i don't go to uni i may never meet that special girl this makes me even more depressed. I don;t really know what to do here... its such a difficult decision and i don't have alot of time to make it. i just feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Any advice is welcome thanks for reading. Ellis
lucid scream

lucid scream

Well-known member
Jan 22, 2008
Looking down from the bridge
thats a hard decision, to leave ones support group. but it might be the best thing youve done, chances are youll meet more friends who can be supportive as well.
but if'n your not ready, then only you know if you are.
my gut tells me to give this advice, stay home for a year and get a job, something in food service or something where your likely to meet vwomen your age. if you can handle it, work as a nurses aid in an old folks home. in my experience, chicks really dig that, theres usually more women in that line of work then men, and since theres a lot of lifting they will be dependent on your big muscles and you'll be popular. plus, ive found that nurses and nurses aids have a LOT of hot broads in that work.

good luck and welcome!
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