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stevie_sloth

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Do you have a carer?
No. I have a partner who also now has anxiety, PTSD and depression.

We have a cleaner who comes every 2 weeks. I have a LOT of clothes so when I get dressed, they're always clean despite the tall pile of laundry still to be washed. We have enough money that we can afford to get Uber Eats every night if we want, and dine out. I don't eat in the day because (a) I'm not awake and (b) I have no appetite at all until about 7pm.

Even as a teenager I only showered 3 times a week.

We have a cat and he gets very well taken care of. The poor boy's barely ever alone these days, as neither of us work so are home all the time. My partner can't sleep late so gets up at 8am. Then I'm up late until 3am or later, so he only gets "private time" for about 5 hours. lol
 
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No. I have a partner who also now has anxiety, PTSD and depression.

We have a cleaner who comes every 2 weeks. I have a LOT of clothes so when I get dressed, they're always clean despite the tall pile of laundry still to be washed. We have enough money that we can afford to get Uber Eats every night if we want, and dine out. I don't eat in the day because (a) I'm not awake and (b) I have no appetite at all until about 7pm.

Even as a teenager I only showered 3 times a week.

We have a cat and he gets very well taken care of. The poor boy's barely ever alone these days, as neither of us work so are home all the time. My partner can't sleep late so gets up at 8am. Then I'm up late until 3am or later, so he only gets "private time" for about 5 hours. lol
We find ways to get by don't we.

I remember during lockdown, a meme of a cat saying ''I'm just popping out for a few hours, would you like me to leave the radio on for you?''
 
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I was sleeping 16 hours a day when I was still taking olanzapine, that's why I stopped taking it. The phone call was from my mental health team. He wants me to see the doctor for a med review. This one thinks I should go back on olanzapine but others said it was ok to stop because I shouldn't be on two anti psychotic meds.
 
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I cannot work.
I cannot do all of the things I would like to do.
Today I cannot stay awake.
We live lives that are far from normal but is not our fault. I carry " a normal life " but inside I am broken and suffering every day. Yet we get up and continue to ride the wave. Our bodies need extra help to cope. Feel better soon
 
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We find ways to get by don't we.

I remember during lockdown, a meme of a cat saying ''I'm just popping out for a few hours, would you like me to leave the radio on for you?''
Ha!! I think I saw that meme! lol
 
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I think most of us have forgotten what normal life is..

The pandemic is too blame for a lot of it, but looking at the MH side, it strips everything away from you. To the outside world, I probably look and act confident, happy, busy etc, but as we on here know, it takes a lot of pain, struggles, hours, tears, force etc to make that move to even get out of the front door, which doesn't always happen..

Ive been trying to motivate myself to leave the house today, I was up at 5.10am, it's now 10.34, my depression is keeping me in my dressing gown, I just can't fight it today.
 
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I think most of us have forgotten what normal life is..

The pandemic is too blame for a lot of it, but looking at the MH side, it strips everything away from you. To the outside world, I probably look and act confident, happy, busy etc, but as we on here know, it takes a lot of pain, struggles, hours, tears, force etc to make that move to even get out of the front door, which doesn't always happen..

Ive been trying to motivate myself to leave the house today, I was up at 5.10am, it's now 10.34, my depression is keeping me in my dressing gown, I just can't fight it today.
If I even think about getting up at 5.10am, I feel like throwing up. This is why I sleep as late as possible...so I don't have to experience the horrible feeling of getting up, and then sitting around...with nothing I want to do...for hours and hours until the slight to moderate relief of evening finally comes.
 
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I've always been a morning person, I prefer getting up early,and tbh, I'm not a great sleeper.

It's the hours between 1-5am that unsettles me, I feel like the whole world is asleep except me, thats when I feel most alone..
 
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I've always been a morning person, I prefer getting up early,and tbh, I'm not a great sleeper.

It's the hours between 1-5am that unsettles me, I feel like the whole world is asleep except me, thats when I feel most alone..
Ahhh, yes. I actually enjoy those hours. I'm an extreme night owl who goes to bed between 3am and 4am. It's my relaxation time.
 
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If I even think about getting up at 5.10am, I feel like throwing up. This is why I sleep as late as possible...so I don't have to experience the horrible feeling of getting up, and then sitting around...with nothing I want to do...for hours and hours until the slight to moderate relief of evening finally comes.
I think I understand this. I am in the habit now of just sleeping unless there is a need to do something else. At the moment I am awake as I am waiting for a phone call, but I will sleep after until I have to go to work. They are the only things I'm getting done. Housework, washing, shopping even eating unless someone else made it, are not worth staying awake for right now.
 
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I think I understand this. I am in the habit now of just sleeping unless there is a need to do something else. At the moment I am awake as I am waiting for a phone call, but I will sleep after until I have to go to work. They are the only things I'm getting done. Housework, washing, shopping even eating unless someone else made it, are not worth staying awake for right now.
This is me too. It's a sad existence.
 
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I'm just wondering, do you think it makes a difference on whether you live alone or with someone?
Does living with a partner/family etc bring some normality to life?
When we live alone, do you think we could possibly be sort of void of normal home life?..

Idk, just wondering, thinking out loud I suppose..
 
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I'm just wondering, do you think it makes a difference on whether you live alone or with someone?
Does living with a partner/family etc bring some normality to life?
When we live alone, do you think we could possibly be sort of void of normal home life?..

Idk, just wondering, thinking out loud I suppose..
This is a very good question, and I think it goes 2 possible ways.

1. You live alone...it's easy, no need to deal with anyone else, there's no pressure...but you may be lonely sometimes, and if you are naturally not inclined to go out, don't have a job, don't socialise and see people, you might become a bit hermit-like. Talking only to yourself...maybe in weird accents (or maybe that's just me. lol), and you may merge into living life mostly online. No routine. No one else to take into consideration.

If you have pets this could help quite a bit. If you're able to take care of them.

OR

2. You live with someone, but you're not happy, have NO space, you need a LOT of time alone but get none. So over time you grow limp and you wilt. You lose interest in doing anything because you are only comfortable doing things alone and in private, so you can't do anything. You fantasise about living alone and re-discovering these interests, feeling "alive" again, and not sleeping all day because you have nothing else you can do. Add to that you are nagged because you haven't done the washing, vacuumed the rug, bought milk...ugh.

In the end though, after the novelty of the above wears off, scenario 1 might apply.

Meh.
 
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Yeah, totally agree with that Stevie..

I really don't think I could live with anyone anymore, and to be fair, I don't think anyone could live with me..

I have my own routines and habits that if anyone would interfere with, I wouldn't be able to cope. If I have visitors(which isn't often)I get quite aggiteted and my anxieties kick in.. on the other side, when those visitors leave, me and my home feel empty and lonely for a while..

I suppose the answers then , is there is no ideal living situation for us, pros and cons on both..
 
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