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Normal to look forward to things?

Topcat

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Just doing a reality check.
How much do other people look forward to things/have interest in things in their day/week/month ahead? Where you may wake up in the morning and have that tiny bit of excitement in you because you remember you have this thing to do.
In the past when I was labelled bipolar and was experiencing a high mood I would sometimes have enormous enthusiasm even over small things like trying to cook something I hadn't before. I know this wasn't normal, but these days I feel like I do everything because I have to. I have to get up in the morning, I have to eat, I have to sleep, I have to do the jobs I set myself. I have no interest in any of it. No interest in food, hobbies, music, work, etc. Maybe it's just circumstances that lower enthusiasm. Not liking my job, not having much spare money, not seeing any friends, things like that? I'm just a bit sick of feeling so down about everything. But maybe that's just normal?
 
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I think it's normal to look forward to things. I do it. My daughter does it.
How old are you, and what job do you do? Any chance of retraining to do something else?
In terms of hobbies, I would say it does help to be really into something, the challenge of getting better at it. Is there anything you can think of to get interested in?
 
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Its always nice to look forward to something.
When depressed there wasn't a lot I was enthused about at all
My only thing I looked forward to was getting to bed and hoping to sleep.
I hated my last job. Disliked my boss, colleagues being bullies.
I always look forward to seeing my dog
When hypomanic I dont think I had time to look forward to anything it waz all happening, keeping up with racing thoughts, getting tasks completed yet that was never ending. I looked forward to the idea once everything was done I could relax.
Trouble was I never caught up with my racing thoughts so I dont think I really looked forward to anything as I didn't have time to think about it
 
Topcat

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I think it's normal to look forward to things. I do it. My daughter does it.
How old are you, and what job do you do? Any chance of retraining to do something else?
In terms of hobbies, I would say it does help to be really into something, the challenge of getting better at it. Is there anything you can think of to get interested in?
Hi, I'm 39 and I work in a small cafe with one other person. Not much chance of retraining as I work Mon-Fri and courses cost too much money. I'm always looking at job ads and applying for any I feel I would like. I've had one interview in years a few weeks ago, but was turned down. I do have hobbies that I stick with, like gardening, reading (when I can get into something), knitting that I keep putting off. I'm generally busy with work, home and kids.
I feel like I detach myself when I'm feeling down and go into my imagination a bit to stay sane, but that's happening more and more and not really working any more.
 
Coreen

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I was sort of wondering the same thing. Some times I get enthusiastic about something I want to do but most times I don't feel excited about anything. I think I could improve in that area. I asked my med provider about a med change. I thought maybe it was too much of this numb feeling I have regarding joy/happiness. So far the med change isn't going as I had hoped. It's still early though. I hope you find something that works for you.
 
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