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Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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I have nobody to talk to about my self harm feelings
the manager of cmht said 'you choose to do it'
I wish it were that simple

I don't think I can stop
 
Fairy Lucretia

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I feel like im being made to feel guilty for doing it and that isn't fair
I have tried and tried to stop and I cant I need it to stay alive
nobody understands
and hermit will leave me if I don't stop

and just so sleepy and tired right bnow
 
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Zackthemaniac

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I have nobody to talk to about my self harm feelings
the manager of cmht said 'you choose to do it'
I wish it were that simple

I don't think I can stop
Im sure their are plenty of people here who could understand.

Its definitely not easy. But you can stop. Any behavior can be changed. Whatever the reason is you self harm you just have to find something else to replace it.
 
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Zackthemaniac

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I feel like im being made to feel guilty for doing it and that isn't fair
I have tried and tried to stop and I cant I need it to stay alive
nobody understands
and hermit will leave me if I don't stop

and just so sleepy and tired right bnow


Can you explain why you need it ?
 
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Helena1

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Well it is a choice, but it is the only way you know how to cope at the moment.

Maybe if you start changing your thought processes around it will help, like to see it is a choice that you make you will feel more empowered and it could help you to stop.
I did this with my aggression, I used to always be slamming doors and throwing things around but then I realised it was choice and now I don't do that any more.
It is not fair for people to make you feel guilty, it is your body and you can do what you like to it.
 
Edinscotbrit

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I know you had therapy twenty years ago.

But I recall you had the option, again, a couple of months ago? Can you not go back and take this offer, as , hopefuly, that will assist in dealing with the pattern of behaviour regarding SH?
 
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I get it, it’s not something you want to do. I don’t doubt that at all. I found myself doing mild forms of it at one point a couple years ago and I definitely didn’t want to I was just so angry at myself I think. Even before that I used to visualize myself doing it for years and that was enough then that I didn’t act on it. I don’t even visualize doing it now. It’s just kind of gone. I think I was very antsy and restless mentally because I didn’t understand myself but now I’m more at peace with myself and I generally feel better.

I know you can get there too Lu and you will ❤
 
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I have nobody to talk to about my self harm feelings
the manager of cmht said 'you choose to do it'
I wish it were that simple

I don't think I can stop
You can always talk to me. I've slipped the past few days :(
 
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Karl L

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I get it, it’s not something you want to do. I don’t doubt that at all. I found myself doing mild forms of it at one point a couple years ago and I definitely didn’t want to I was just so angry at myself I think. Even before that I used to visualize myself doing it for years and that was enough then that I didn’t act on it. I don’t even visualize doing it now. It’s just kind of gone. I think I was very antsy and restless mentally because I didn’t understand myself but now I’m more at peace with myself and I generally feel better.

I know you can get there too Lu and you will ❤
Completely agree. X
 
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