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I love this forum and other places I chat online
but sometimes aware it is not the same as having someone at home
that you can talk to about little things that are bothering you
like health concerns or stuff around the house
and then the anxiety builds up

I found emailing my aunt was helpful for this
she was really good with it
but in return she wants me to look after my addict brother
which kind of defeats the object for me really
to bring me out of my anxiety and throw me back in there

x x x
 
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That would be a tough ask.

All I can say is be careful in relation to your own wellbeing.
 
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thankyou I feel like I'm needy and need a lot of help
but dont know where to get it
 
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Hey Zoe1.... being needy is totally okay. How you get those needs met though is a bit tricky. Online discussions are good, but sometimes face to face dialogue is needed. You don't say where you are but if you're in the UK, there are people who could help.
 
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I always found my GP useful but I know a lot of people don't rate that service.
 
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thankyou, I'm in south UK
I think if I ask the services for help
they will direct me to the wellbeing hub for people with mental illnesses

well I have tried going there
and there are some lovely people there
and there are also some very disturbed people
that have followed me out of the building and harassed me

plus I'm very codependent , so sometimes I get pulled down
with other peoples triggers
which doesnt happen so much online

x x x
 
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Ruby Wax in the UK started something called Frazzled Café which allows complete strangers to meet up and talk... it is an interesting option if you don't want to try the therapist route.
 
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What would help you here online? Do you just want to rant or prefer to get advice suggestions to your queries?
 
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k thanks I looked it up and id didnt say where the frazzled cafe is
 
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I think I'm ' chatting ' so suggestions are fine
I cant always carry them out though
but its good to have the info x x x
 
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k great I signed up to their mailing list !
actually usually I have an art class on a Thursday
but they are off for the summer
I was planning to stay home and clean the house
but being on my own I start to go mad
 
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Get outside... in the fresh air... Walk for a mile in a field or a forest. Being in a flat or a house for 12+ hours makes anyone crazy.
 
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I went out for a sandwich, its night time now
there was a time when I used to phone Alanon members
but then things changed when everyone went on mobiles
and I couldn't afford to phone them

now the phone situation has changed so I can afford it
but ive lost my confidence !

x x x
 
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i know what you are saying. Have you tried pm people on the forum, most people are happy to have a chat. I've had some really nice conversations with people lately. It's really interesting when people are over the other side of the world and you can build a bit more of a repore with People on the forum.
 
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hi Eddie thanks very much I will bear it in mind
not sure ... I think sometimes I need to actually talk verbally
maybe I should sing or something !
 
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Zoe, I have just meant you, but you mean a lot to me already! Battling depression today and took the day off from work.
 
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oh hi Salli ! yes I look forward to your posts also

in a way I'm pleased you took the day off
you need to get something for yourself isn't it

how did your day off go ? x x x
 

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