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I have just fallen out with my partner AGAIN. He wanted to have sex, i didnt.

I got put on lithium in 2007 and am on 2 different anti ds and risperidone. also take thyroxine.

I would say that since the lithium i have had a lower sex drive. Do you think this could have anything to do with it, or any other of my meds.

I hate it , it causes so many arguments. I love my partner and i still fancy him. I dont know what to do. He wants me to go to the doc but im quite embarrassed. and doubt they can do anything anyway, or everyone would be there lol I have never had a v high sex drive maybe do it 2-3 times a week but now it is like once a week and only cause i feel i should.

Also put on 2 stone while i was manic for some reason. was just so happy i didnt care about calorie counting.

Does anyone have this problem, is it common?? I know being depressed can effect it but i feel quite good at the moment.

Should i go to the doc?

sorry if this is to much information for you. :oops:
 
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yup i havent had a sex drive at all for months. almost more than that, like a fear of physical contact. My partner is very patient and tries to understand but i know it kind of hurts him. I feel like theres nothing i can do though..im almost certain the medication im on has a lot to do with it but at the same time its got worse as my depression has worsened, so maybe its just depression...?
drug manufacturers just think sex drive is not very important, obviously, but being without one makes me feel a bit like i have no soul..
 
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It could just be the depression but it could also be the ADs, some of them have that effect, especially the SSRIs. Don't be embarrassed to go to the doctor, they will be used to hearing that particular complaint about depression and ADs and if they think meds are to blame then they might well be able to suggest something else.

Good luck, I hope you can get this sorted.
 
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i don't want anything to do with sex so i know where you're coming from x
 
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thanks guys. i know that if i have complained about the weight gain i get with meds, they have said you are either fat and happy or thin and suicidal. so im pretty sure iwould get the same reception with regard to my sex drive.

who knows what the answer is eh. is there female viagra lol

thanks for the replies xx
 
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Im on antidepressants and Risperidone and i have no sex drive at all..my hubby is very patient but i tend to go through with sex just to satisfy him..I get no satisfaction from sex at all now..:(
 
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Sally i know what you mean. i do enjoy it sometimes, i just hardly ever *want* to do it. i wish i did, i miss it.
 
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i miss it too...weve only been married 20 months so i should still be enjoying it..lol..but no..along comes Risperidone injections and i totally go off the boil..poor hubby..i do feel for him.
 
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You have sex once a week? Blimey mine is usually once a month, sometimes 2 or 3 months!! My bf is fine with that oddly enough.
 
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ha ha. i know once a week is a task mind you. but he will be getting nowt as he is pd me off tonite. lol x
 
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I too understand :hug:

and don't know how my OH copes with me and lack of sex:hug:

He actually asked my GP if there was a female alternative to viagra :rolleyes:

However he has been a diamond ......I too am looking forward to when I am also in the mood
 
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I know exactly waht you mean. After not wanting it for 4 years:scared: my husband eventually left me so im not help im afraid:hug:
 
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wow , i thought it was just me ! i dont think mine is med related , its mood related , then when i want it he gets scared lol other times the idea of sex makes my skin crawl
 
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i think the only time im up for sex is when im hypomanic. he was loving it. lol
 
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we do it once a week..normally a saturday or sunday morning when the kids are still alseep..lol..having older kids kind of puts a dampner on ones sex life..combined with my risperidal injection and depression im suprised i do it once a week even..lol.
 
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