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No point in going on

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I’m done. I have 3 more weeks of DBT then nothing. The best they can offer is sporadic appointments with a stand-in care co-ordinator as mine is on long term sick. So I’ll be going from 2.5 hours a week group therapy and 1 hour 1-2-1 to next to nothing.

I know they can’t take away from what I have learnt but its not enough. My self-esteem is at rock bottom, I’m constantly on the verge of a panic attack, my long term partner offers little support and I have no close friends.


What is the point of keeping trying. I really thought that DBT was going to be the answer, that I’d learnt the skills and they would give me the life worth living that DBT aims for. I use the skills constantly, I use mindfulness all the time. None of that has helped me see myself as a worthwhile human being. Yes I can identify emotions and work out what to do with it but underneath I still feel like a complete waste of time and space.

Why would I choose to keep going when this, along with fear and overwhelming sadness are ever present?


I’ve failed. I should have known better when I was offered DBT. I should have known I wouldn’t be able to make it work and that I’d get attached to the group and my therapist. I took a risk and I failed.

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ultimately only you can bring happiness to your life, DBT are only tools to help you along, nothing externally is the answer, otherwise successful people wouldn't be killing themselves either
 
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hi ,I know it is hard but please try not to give up xxx
you certainly are not a failure you have been trying your best
here to offer love and support
lots of love and good wishes Lu xxxx
 
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Can you get a therapist with more time to see you even if they don’t specialize in BPD? Or can you replace that group with maybe a hobby of some sort and meet some new people? We’re here too!
 
Lunus

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I’m done. I have 3 more weeks of DBT then nothing. The best they can offer is sporadic appointments with a stand-in care co-ordinator as mine is on long term sick. So I’ll be going from 2.5 hours a week group therapy and 1 hour 1-2-1 to next to nothing.

I know they can’t take away from what I have learnt but its not enough. My self-esteem is at rock bottom, I’m constantly on the verge of a panic attack, my long term partner offers little support and I have no close friends.


What is the point of keeping trying. I really thought that DBT was going to be the answer, that I’d learnt the skills and they would give me the life worth living that DBT aims for. I use the skills constantly, I use mindfulness all the time. None of that has helped me see myself as a worthwhile human being. Yes I can identify emotions and work out what to do with it but underneath I still feel like a complete waste of time and space.

Why would I choose to keep going when this, along with fear and overwhelming sadness are ever present?


I’ve failed. I should have known better when I was offered DBT. I should have known I wouldn’t be able to make it work and that I’d get attached to the group and my therapist. I took a risk and I failed.

x
It sounds as though you haven’t radically accepted your past because if you had you would still not be in a state of suffering and your self esteem and self worth would have risen. My advice is get yourself some self help books. I’ve found Mindfulness for BPD by Blaise Aguirre and Gillian Galen and The Mindful way through depression particularly helpful. Try everything before you give up, you owe that to yourself.
 
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Thanks for all of your support.

I have thought about a replacement/alternative but even though I don't want to be on my own, I'm also scared of starting a new relationship with someone else. I know deep down that I need to give myself time to use the skills on my own, without my safety net. I have so many DBT notes (inc ones on Radical Acceptance) and I want to work my way through them all again.
Its the fact that I'm losing a really important relationship, mainly with my therapist but also the skills group that I spend 2.5 hours a week with. I trust her so much and I know that the relationship is the key thing to DBT so in that respect, its gone to plan but that makes it all ending, so much more painful.
I can't see past it. I can't cope with this level of emotional pain and its only going to get worse.
I wish I had an off switch, both where my emotions are concerned and in general.
:low::low:x
 
Lunus

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Thanks for all of your support.

I have thought about a replacement/alternative but even though I don't want to be on my own, I'm also scared of starting a new relationship with someone else. I know deep down that I need to give myself time to use the skills on my own, without my safety net. I have so many DBT notes (inc ones on Radical Acceptance) and I want to work my way through them all again.
Its the fact that I'm losing a really important relationship, mainly with my therapist but also the skills group that I spend 2.5 hours a week with. I trust her so much and I know that the relationship is the key thing to DBT so in that respect, its gone to plan but that makes it all ending, so much more painful.
I can't see past it. I can't cope with this level of emotional pain and its only going to get worse.
I wish I had an off switch, both where my emotions are concerned and in general.
:low::low:x
Unfortunately we all need emotions to survive. Do not be afraid of your emotions, let them out and whatever the pain, like a wave it will subside and pass and your thoughts will move on. It’s suppressing your emotion that is causing you to suffer. Talk to your therapist and get her thoughts.
 
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