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No one ever listens to me

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And they don’t care that they don’t. They think I’M rude. Fine then. I guess I’m just rude. They can all go be not rude together without me.
 
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my parents and bf think I’m being rude when I don’t just sit back and let them plan stuff and come up with solutions for me instead of using my own brain for those things
 
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I want them to listen and say I have a right to feel frustrated but they won’t. They think I’m being mean by feeling frustrated.
 
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I’m rude when they don’t listen the first time or listen to my feelings like I want
 
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I probably am kinda a mean person
 
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awww no thats their problem
you need to have other people to talk to besides just them

:grouphug:
 
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Have you ever considered taking an anger management class at your local community centre? It’s not for hot headed people, rather tools you can use to speak up and be heard, without feeling like you’ve lost the argument because of emotions. Which isn’t fair.

DBT offers those skills too.
 
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I also feel like you get gaslighted a lot, based on what you describe.

Which parent is NPD?
 
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Neither of them is. They’re just both overly protective or were when I was little. It’s kinda had a similar effect almost though cause I always look to other people for the answers and for approval.
 
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awww no thats their problem
you need to have other people to talk to besides just them

:grouphug:
I think it is my issue but I also think that your solution is accurate 🥰
 
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Have you ever considered taking an anger management class at your local community centre? It’s not for hot headed people, rather tools you can use to speak up and be heard, without feeling like you’ve lost the argument because of emotions. Which isn’t fair.

DBT offers those skills too.
That might be good for me. I really think it’s my fault I just don’t know how to like explain how I feel before I wind up erupting
 
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I don’t think it’s your fault. But you can’t change other people, only you. The classes will help lessen the impact.
 
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