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No diagnosis no one to talk to

Snowfairy

Snowfairy

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I'm not diagnosed with ptsd I'm not really sure if I have it this is the closest forum I could find I'm sorry
but I did go through a horrible assault a few years ago.
I never tod anyone for a few reasons, embarrassment, fear, dissapointed in myself ect
But it's making my life hard I already had an eating disorder and depression but this really spiked my anxiety
I'm scared of men
I really can't leave the house without a sister, my mum or a close friend I'm too scared.
Im in anxiety management therapy but I don't think I'm going to get better without talking about this
But I can't tell my parents or sister they have wayyy to much to deal with already
Same with a friend
My other closest friend it sounds awful but i really think she'd tell my mum.
I don't know what to do it happened 4 years ago but I still cry myself to sleep thinking about it 3/4 times a week
 
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Hi snowfairy.
I'm so very sorry you were hurt, please don't blame yourself.
Therapy might be a good option for you, some areas you can self refer ask at your Drs.
Hope you find support soon.
 
Snowfairy

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Hi snowfairy.
I'm so very sorry you were hurt, please don't blame yourself.
Therapy might be a good option for you, some areas you can self refer ask at your Drs.
Hope you find support soon.
Thank you I'm working up the courage to talk to someone about it, hopefully then I can I've on
 
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Hi Snowfairy! Thank you for sharing! I also have PTSD and anxiety. I have been in treatment for PTSD and it helped me tremendously. It helped pinpoint specifics, especially issues with my own thinking that were causing me further suffering and actually causing my anxiety and depression. This treatment was different from my general anxiety, which I learned really follows themes relating to my experiences. If you go to the person who is helping you with your anxiety, they may help you with PTSD. Anxiety is only one symptom of PTSD. You can be free of this condition, with proper treatment. All the best!
 
Snowfairy

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Hi Snowfairy! Thank you for sharing! I also have PTSD and anxiety. I have been in treatment for PTSD and it helped me tremendously. It helped pinpoint specifics, especially issues with my own thinking that were causing me further suffering and actually causing my anxiety and depression. This treatment was different from my general anxiety, which I learned really follows themes relating to my experiences. If you go to the person who is helping you with your anxiety, they may help you with PTSD. Anxiety is only one symptom of PTSD. You can be free of this condition, with proper treatment. All the best!
Thank you I think my new years resolution is to tell someone that can help, its holding me back and putting my life on hold
 
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Jasmin3

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I'm not diagnosed with ptsd I'm not really sure if I have it this is the closest forum I could find I'm sorry
but I did go through a horrible assault a few years ago.
I never tod anyone for a few reasons, embarrassment, fear, dissapointed in myself ect
But it's making my life hard I already had an eating disorder and depression but this really spiked my anxiety
I'm scared of men
I really can't leave the house without a sister, my mum or a close friend I'm too scared.
Im in anxiety management therapy but I don't think I'm going to get better without talking about this
But I can't tell my parents or sister they have wayyy to much to deal with already
Same with a friend
My other closest friend it sounds awful but i really think she'd tell my mum.
I don't know what to do it happened 4 years ago but I still cry myself to sleep thinking about it 3/4 times a week
Hi, thank you for sharing this post it is not only extremely brave but empowering that you have realised this weight off your shoulders one of the hardest things anyone should ever have to go through. I am so sorry you have gone through that, how are you? I hope that's not a silly question to ask, have you gone to therapy or spoken to an adult of authority that you could trust or seemed legal advice for this horrific incident that happened?

Time is a healer and you have been truly brave enough to share this, trauma is what you are going through and coping is what are you trying to do now. Something has happened in your life or compelled you to share this, lifting this weight from your shoulder which is extremely brave and empowering. No matter how much your family have to deal with you are valued, important and loved and you will not been seen as a burden when you do decide your ready to share this to them so please remember that. What might be an idea is having your friend with you for support when you tell your family, so your telling them with your friend by your side this will eat away at you the long you keep it too yourself. But you also need to rebuild and focus on yourself, self love is important, caring and rebuilding what has chipped away at you.

I hope I am not imposing by replying, your post struck a cord and resonated with me as a person who has suffered from trauma and overcome it I feel nothing but strength, pride in anyone who discloses and opens up about there hurt and pain time is a healer. You will grow from strength and you should be will grow in confidence.

Best wishes, I hope you have had a lovely Christmas.
 
Snowfairy

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Hi, thank you for sharing this post it is not only extremely brave but empowering that you have realised this weight off your shoulders one of the hardest things anyone should ever have to go through. I am so sorry you have gone through that, how are you? I hope that's not a silly question to ask, have you gone to therapy or spoken to an adult of authority that you could trust or seemed legal advice for this horrific incident that happened?

Time is a healer and you have been truly brave enough to share this, trauma is what you are going through and coping is what are you trying to do now. Something has happened in your life or compelled you to share this, lifting this weight from your shoulder which is extremely brave and empowering. No matter how much your family have to deal with you are valued, important and loved and you will not been seen as a burden when you do decide your ready to share this to them so please remember that. What might be an idea is having your friend with you for support when you tell your family, so your telling them with your friend by your side this will eat away at you the long you keep it too yourself. But you also need to rebuild and focus on yourself, self love is important, caring and rebuilding what has chipped away at you.

I hope I am not imposing by replying, your post struck a cord and resonated with me as a person who has suffered from trauma and overcome it I feel nothing but strength, pride in anyone who discloses and opens up about there hurt and pain time is a healer. You will grow from strength and you should be will grow in confidence.

Best wishes, I hope you have had a lovely Christmas.
Thank you for this it means so much to me, its really hard for me to talk about these things even on the Internet so people being so kind replying is giving me a little more courage to tell someone in person
 
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Nukelavee

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Posting here is the first step in being able to discuss it.

Don't try to unpack it all at once, that can be overwhelming.

You'll get through this - because you want to.
 
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Jasmin3

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Thank you for this it means so much to me, its really hard for me to talk about these things even on the Internet so people being so kind replying is giving me a little more courage to tell someone in person
Hi, @Snowfairy I am so glad this has helped some what. You deserve to be told how brave, courageous and amazing you are being so remember that. Even when the bad days are bad, the good will always outweigh it because you know how much you're worth. Take baby steps, when the step is right for you your feel so much better and elated for it. Also would like to add how amazing this forum is, it's helped me loads already full of like minded kind people that show so much understanding. Hope your well :)
 
LizBo

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Hi and welcome @Snowfairy;

Sexual assault is one of many tools people use to disempower and make us feel small. Post trauma responses are mainly about the brain, but unfortunately, the effect to our sense of self esteem and confidence runs far deeper.

'Waking the Tiger' by Peter Levine, is a book I swear by when it comes to PTSD. My psychologist referred me to it when life was hitting the skids. I learned so much from reading it; mainly that nothing is my fault. That's the important aspect sufferers would do well to embrace.

What you're experiencing isn't your fault ok. It's a combination of shock/damage to your brain, (which takes time to heal) and fear of the unknown.

Just like any broken bone or organ in need of healing, the brain also requires rest and recuperation to work properly again. Combining talking therapy with other forms of treatment such as medication (if you're open to this) will give you and your brain time to be still, cope better and hopefully get quality sleep; a must for healing.

I really do wish you well. I hope something I've written resonates and supports you on your path to recovery.

Kind thoughts;
Liz :hug:
 
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