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Nightmares are back

vulch

vulch

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I'm having nightmares hit me again after so long a reprieve of them not haunting me at night

It might be because I'm sick but the horrid putrid feeling of being friends with my abuser, even in my dreams, makes me feel disgusting and I've been in a deep depression and just sour mood all day, nothing makes me feel better, nothing makes me feel ANYTHING,

I'm so just....it feels like I've been violated all over again.
 
Acorn

Acorn

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I can definitely relate to nightmares making you feel like you’ve been violated all over again.

What helps me is to try and sleep with grounding objects and putting lavender on my pillow so I get a grounding scent when I wake up. I also find it helpful to try to relax before bed with an audio book or soothing music.
 
TulipIceCream

TulipIceCream

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I also will have nightmares about my abusers when I am not well physically. There seems to be a primitive defense aspect where in my body, the trauma seems to be connected with any body pain or discomfort. Being sick or hurt will make me think about past trauma and then have nightmares. The body remembers. What helps me is that I know it is only a phantom of my mind. I try to focus on the things that I am grateful for and focus on how far I have come from my bad days. I am especially grateful that I am not in any of those situations again. Hope this can help you
 
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Coolname

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I got rid of a recurring nightmare relating to a specific individual being back in my life by talking it through in counselling, not simply recounting it but closing my eyes and reliving the emotions it provoked. Not something I would attempt without therapist support. On the downside when I got rid of that nightmare the stress cramps returned...
 
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