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LancashireLad82

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Hi all, the issue I have is being skinny. I’m 37 & have a serious issue with how skinny my arms & mainly my legs are! Before I was 13 it never bothered me at all, during the summer holidays all I’d wear is my shorts. When I was 13, I told my parents that I was going to a mates house just down the street, but I ended up meeting up with a different crowd & ended up on the cider! I didn’t get home until the early hours, my parents had driven around town looking for me as they were worried. I got grounded. Because of the length of time I got grounded, I got used to staying in & not going out socialising. I lost all confidence in myself. I went really shy, had social anxiety & became very conscious of how skinny I was. My confidence has grown due to the job I do, but I never go out wearing shorts & I only bare my arms when I have to. I’ve had hypnotherapy twice at £50 a pop to try & get over it but it’s still there in my head. I’m too worried about what people comment about me, as I’ve over heard people saying about me having chicken leges etc & that’s when I’m wearing jeans. Around 2008 I did start going the gym & then in 2012 I did a 3 month course of steroids which I put a stone of weight on mainly water, near enough of coming off it I lost it all & went back to square one. After being on steroids I never found the love of the gym again with out it. When I’m outside I never see anyone as skinny as me, I do feel alone. I hate it, I shouldn’t feel like this, who gives one if I’m skinny! But it’s all in my head!
 
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I spent most of my life at 5'9" and 105 pounds.

Some people are just always going to be thin. All you can do is accept it, and own it.
 
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shikiraclare

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Hi there,

I sort of understand some of your frustration having been thin myself more times than I can remember and typically through eating disorders and malnutrition/starvation as a child, not the same issue as yourself.

Other peoples' judgements must be painful and definitely 100% uncalled for especially so when you are still a very young woman (between ages of 18-35). No one knows your situation, only you - If I were to tell you that other people's opinions don't matter will not help you and make you feel even worse perhaps?. It is only ever insecure people however that reflect their own unhappiness (about themselves) onto anyone else who they think are having a much better time........despite this not being the case whatsoever.

Loving and accepting who you are takes a huge amount of self-courage - it took me 7/8 years to get to that point in life as a 47 year old woman with exceptional good looks and great physical symmetry. Yet most people (females), feel more challenged and envious of personal confidence - the way you carry yourself upright and confident - being self assurred goes a very long way indeed to not looking for other peoples' approval of you. You are unique and beautiful in your own way and you do not need anyone's acceptance of you, yet this can take a long time the longer you care about what you think other people feel about you. It only matters what you feel, no one else can own that very important part of you.
 
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LancashireLad82

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I do accept I’m skinny, but it’s easier said than done, I can’t help worrying what other people think 🤷‍♂️
 
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LancashireLad82

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Hi there,

I sort of understand some of your frustration having been thin myself more times than I can remember and typically through eating disorders and malnutrition/starvation as a child, not the same issue as yourself.

Other peoples' judgements must be painful and definitely 100% uncalled for especially so when you are still a very young woman (between ages of 18-35). No one knows your situation, only you - If I were to tell you that other people's opinions don't matter will not help you and make you feel even worse perhaps?. It is only ever insecure people however that reflect their own unhappiness (about themselves) onto anyone else who they think are having a much better time........despite this not being the case whatsoever.

Loving and accepting who you are takes a huge amount of self-courage - it took me 7/8 years to get to that point in life as a 47 year old woman with exceptional good looks and great physical symmetry. Yet most people (females), feel more challenged and envious of personal confidence - the way you carry yourself upright and confident - being self assurred goes a very long way indeed to not looking for other peoples' approval of you. You are unique and beautiful in your own way and you do not need anyone's acceptance of you, yet this can take a long time the longer you care about what you think other people feel about you. It only matters what you feel, no one else can own that very important part of you.
Thank you for your words! I am going to try & overcome this, little by little I will push past my comfort zone.
 
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shikiraclare

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You are an amazing individual in your own right - telling yourself this as often as possible goes a very long way - little by little it will happen and you will achieve anything you want to become. Never allow anyone the right to tell you who or what you should be - no one has that right, only you yourself.
 
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You are an amazing individual in your own right - telling yourself this as often as possible goes a very long way - little by little it will happen and you will achieve anything you want to become. Never allow anyone the right to tell you who or what you should be - no one has that right, only you yourself.
I do try & tell myself that I am skinny, my body works as it should & that I should be happy with who I am & how I look, but when I’m in public with a t shirt on or even a jumper I’m always thinking people are commenting about my skinny legs or/&arms! I don’t know why I let it bother me but I think I’m mentally weak in that department!
 
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Hi and welcome. Self acceptance of body type is tough. There are pros and cons of being any size but i think going through exercises of self acceptance and body image might be beneficial
 
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Welcome! I'm also new. Have you tried talking to a mental health counselor? There might be more ways they can help you to overcome this. That being said, I know therapy can be expensive. It's very hard to overcome self image issues in our current culture, there's always pressure to look a certain way. I wish you the best of luck, hopefully talking it out on the forum can help over time!
 
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