New Member needs advice

[stressedone]

My husband has recently been diagnosed with clinical depression and I need some advice on how to cope with daily life, as it is very up and down at the moment, happy to argumentative and angry very quickly.

Can anyone help?

 

[Twylight]

Hello and Welcome

I think clinical depression is treatable with medicine, but it might take a while for it to ' Kick in '

It might be an idea to give him some space and not try too hard

 

[bluenomore]

Hi,

I know it's very difficult for a partner / family member to know how to cope with someone with depression.

Just try to be supportive, but give your husband a bit of space and don't ask him how he's feeling all the time. (That really does my head in )

It's not always easy to talk to someone close to you, so don't pressure him to discuss his illness with you unless he wants to.

You could maybe suggest that he has a look at this forum. He can rant and rave on here all he wants

 

[stressedone]

Thanks blue

I am seeking some assistance from my GP, as I feel I need some external support. Thanks for your help

 

[ms_P]

Hi Stressedone,
While I feel for your husband, I hope you are looking after yourself as well?
You can still enjoy your own interests, whilst your man recovers from his depression.

 

[Lion Heart]

tell him you love him often,sorry if you already do but this helps me when im feeling depressed

 

[Onlymebud]

I'm just coming to terms with my problems myself so pretty short on advise but i will say just be there for him and let him know you love him.
I'm sure he knows already but it doesn't hurt to say it again.

I'm sure it will get better in time

 

[Wonky]

Taking from the point of view of someone who suffers from depression I know what I hope for from those close to me - 1) when I want to be quiet, let me be quiet but don't leave me, I need the reassurance of you being close or nearby, 2) try to understand that depression makes me irritable, it decreases my ability to tolerate things, 2) try to understand that depression reduces my physical energy, physical tasks become laborious and sapping.

If I used one word for depression it would be "loss" - loss of mental energy, loss of physical energy, loss of the ability to tolerate things, loss of the ability to enjoy things, loss of concentration, etc, etc. Depression is not just an extreme form of sadness, it is a kind of shutting down and has many levels and aspects.