New member here - addiction and depression

[blush99999]

Dear All,
I am very glad to have found this forum. I feel like I need to start reaching out to people, find a support group. I am in my mid 20s, I moved to a new country to be with my partner, but I feel like I have a very deep longing for home. Or, rather, not event home - I know that moving back wouldn't really solve it. I'm always thinking of the good old days at home with my mum, my childhood. And because these "good old days of childhood" are forever gone, I started drinking. I feel embarrassed talking about it, because at my age I should be all good with living on my own, but I believe I am not the only one who's got very little joy in the present and so idealizes the past. I hope I can find other people who share a similar addiction/depression narrative. We can be there for eachother.

Take care.

 

[JeanPierre]

Welcome here!

 

[MoonShapedPool]

Hi This is also my first post!
I have studied anxiety/Depression a great deal
(I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder & diagnosed Depression years ago) &
I am also 6 month sober this Saturday!
You probably know Depression is about the past - Anxiety is
fear of the future.
I also idealise the past (I love that description)
So did my late Brother.
I wish I knew why.
I have had some CBT group stuff,but it didn`t
help one bit really.
Good to meet you blush..
Hope you/We find some support here.

 

[JeanPierre]

Hi This is also my first post!
I have studied anxiety/Depression a great deal
(I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder & diagnosed Depression years ago) &
I am also 6 month sober this Saturday!
You probably know Depression is about the past - Anxiety is
fear of the future.
I also idealise the past (I love that description)
So did my late Brother.
I wish I knew why.
I have had some CBT group stuff,but it didn`t
help one bit really.
Good to meet you blush..
Hope you/We find some support here.

Welcome you, too.

 

[Ubud1976]

Dear All,
I am very glad to have found this forum. I feel like I need to start reaching out to people, find a support group. I am in my mid 20s, I moved to a new country to be with my partner, but I feel like I have a very deep longing for home. Or, rather, not event home - I know that moving back wouldn't really solve it. I'm always thinking of the good old days at home with my mum, my childhood. And because these "good old days of childhood" are forever gone, I started drinking. I feel embarrassed talking about it, because at my age I should be all good with living on my own, but I believe I am not the only one who's got very little joy in the present and so idealizes the past. I hope I can find other people who share a similar addiction/depression narrative. We can be there for eachother.

Take care.

Hi Blush
I moved to another country for years to be with someone and that feeling didn’t go. Although I made the best of the situation, that feeling was always there. You are at an age now where you can get help early and welcome to the group. I left that feeling for years and then when the relationship broke I drank more. I had a breaking point which is now what I’m having to deal with. It’s hard now and I wish I’d done something younger. Listen to your gut, if it’s not the right place for you move. If you don’t think it’s your location, talk to a doctor and they will refer. Stop drinking if you can, that’s important. Be true to yourself and talk to this group. Take some steps for you now. People later in life still live with parents, looking back at these times is a nice thing to do and you are not alone. I was always missing something and had that longing, I have been where you are now and could never be alone, that’s why I went through multiple relationships because I didn’t deal with the root of the problem. There is help everywhere for you and you’ve taken the first steps, well done.

 

[MoonShapedPool]

Welcome you, too.

Thanks so much!

 

[UpnDwn1978]

Hi welcome to the forum blush99999