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steviek

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Hi, everyone.

I'm new to this site, so forgive me if I am in the wrong place or this post gets a bit long winded.

Let me start by telling you what has prompted me to visit this forum. At the weekend my mother-in-law was admitted to hospital after several weeks of declining mental health. She has had a couple of very traumatic years and this has accumulated and caused a mental breakdown.

She is being treated in a psychiatric ward, where she has been since Sunday, while they perform various tests to diagnose her illness and decide on a cause of treatment.

As I'm sure many of you are aware, psychiatric wards aren't very nice places. I have experience of them with my own mother who has dementia and spent several months in hospital before being taken into full time care. The wards are frightening places, especially when you are fairly lucid, and basically all you seem to be suffering from is an inability to cope with daily life.

My wife and her father have tried to get mum-in-law a private room as they hope this will lessen her anxiety and depression about her predicament. Unfortunately there are no rooms available in the ward. Do we have any rights to ask that she be moved to a private room in another ward? If that fails we want to find a nursing home that can care for people who have had a breakdown. Somewhere where they can be assisted in their recovery in more tranquil surroundings. Does anyone know how one searches for such places? I don't mean care homes such as the one my own Mum is in, but ones that give psychiatric treatment, either inside or outside the NHS.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Any advice you can give would be a great help at this difficult time for the family.
 
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Twylight

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Hi Steviek, I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law
There are usually few private rooms in psychiatric hospitals, as patients need to be observed 24/7

My experience of hospitals is that the staff are true proffessionals
Try not to worry...
 
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Dollit

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You could try doing a search for private psychiatric hospitals - with the NHS there aren't that many and you tend to be allocated to a consultant/hospital by postcode.

To be honest she's probably better in an atmosphere were she is at least being stimulated by other people than in isolation. It's terrifying sometimes to be in you own head and alone.
 
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steviek

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Thank you

Thank you. But the environment my Mom in law is in is not conducive to socialising. She is now constantly associating with some very distressed people which is not helping her. Her decline is noticeable on each visit. There is no privacy and nowhere for the family to spend time with her. We are huddled into an alcove in the corridor.

Thank you anyway.
 
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steviek

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Thank you

I understand what you are saying about the observation, but surely each patient should have access to a private area to meet with their family instead of standing in an alcove in a corridor.

Thank you for your response. But I am beginning to feel that we do not deal very well with our mental health patients in the UK. Perhaps there is still a stigma about mental illness in this country.

I believe that some of the staff are professionals, but I regret that there are many, care workers in particular, who do not understand the nature of what they are dealing with.

It is good to talk - and thanks again.

Hi Steviek, I'm sorry to hear about your mother in law
There are usually few private rooms in psychiatric hospitals, as patients need to be observed 24/7

My experience of hospitals is that the staff are true proffessionals
Try not to worry...
 
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Twylight

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Hi Stevie, I get the feeling that you want to have a private time with your mother in law, to talk some sense in to her - which is natural and understandable.

At the moment she is not herself and the only thing that will help her is medication and this will take some time to work ( weeks )
Try and put your feelings and emotions on ' Hold '.
Your mother in law will be herself again soon, and that is when she will need you the most
The staff and care workers might seem indifferent, but they are waiting for the medicine to work.
Twylight
 
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steviek

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New here - mother in law in hospital

I hear what you say but the problem is mum-in-law has worsened since she has been in the ward. She is alert but depressed and her depression is worsening everyday. When we visit we see that she is worse than the day before. The place she is in physically is not conducive to her getting better. How can we convince the doctor when we see him on Tuesday that the road to getting mum-in-law better is to give her better conditions? To get her out of that ward to a place where she can be more relaxed and proper treatment can be given for her sleeping pill dependency.
 
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Dollit

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If your mother in law is in an NHS hospital then she may be in the best place facilities wise - unfortunately NHS hospitals tend to be functional. Try your local PALS if you really think she's not getting the best possible care available.
 
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Twylight

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It is most likely that mother in law is taking an anti-psychotic and these can take some time to ' kick in ',
When it does ' kick in ' her sleep pattern will improve, as will her mood.
 
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