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_winter_

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Hi everyone, as the title says i'm new here & wanted to say "hi"/introduce myself. I guess I also want to make sure it's cool for me to post here, I have generalized depression, social anxiety, PTSD, & ADHD; & my Husband has BPD & ADHD. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable if this a board strictly for people with BPD or somthing? I am hoping that I can learn a lot here, interacting with everyone. I'don't like to better understand, & help my husband. I love him, & we have a good marriage that we fight hard for. He knows i do a lot of research on BPD, & that i've been looking for a BPD board; if he ever wants i'll show him everything I write. So I i'm not here to complain, or talk behind his back. We practice rigorous honesty, it makes life easier for both of us (what with us both being a little crazy cakes.). Sorry this got so long, social anxiety makes me want to overexplaine everything.
 
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Hi. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me, and shows you to be a caring and supportive person. I myself am a social anxiety sufferer, always have been. My daughter has ASD, acute anxiety, and chronic OCD, so I am also looking for information and experiences with those conditions.
I think if we have a greater level of understanding, then we're in a better position to support people with these problems.
This is a great site, with a nice group of people. I think you will like it :)
 
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_winter_

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Thanks. How old is your daughter ? I agree! A better level of understanding can make all the difference! I didn't understand really anything about BPD for the first couple of years of our marriage. We were young (I was 25, & he was 23) & he'd been diagnosed about 2 years before our wedding, 1 year before we started dating. I think there was a lot we both didn't know & understand. We went through an awful time in our marriage because of it. I spent a lot of time reading, & asking him questions about himself, & was able to start understanding some of the ways that he experience's the world differently than I do. I know now that he often feels incredible guilt, & whenever he makes a mistake. So for me to also get angry with him is just overkill & makes it worse.
 
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I have BPD and as far as I'm concerned the more people talking the better. I'm also a married man so if you have anything you want from the opinion of the other side, feel free to ask :) fair warning though, the reason I decided to have a look back on here was that I found out my wife had been cheating on me for about 5 years and I tried to kill myself a month ago... sooooo I might not be the most stable just the now 😬
 
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Thanks for the welcomes & sorry for the late reply. I'very been crazy busy the last couple of weeks.
Cal, I think EVERYONE has times when they are not so stable, & sometimes we say the most brilliant things because atm we are looking at the world differently :)
I don't know the situation with your wife. My husband cheated on me a LOT in the early years of our marriage, & it almost ruined us. I can say now that I've honestly forgiven him. Sure if I think about it long enough it makes me upset, but so does world hunger, starving puppies.... LOTS of things make me upset if I think about them long enough. I don't know what the situation is with u & your wife, so I don't want to offer u a bunch of advice that may not pertain to your situation. I will tell u that cheating only has to be the end of a marriage if 1 of u wants it to be. I also gotta say that most cheaters, no matter what their reasons for cheating, feel truley horrible about it in after the fact. Like if you've ever made a huge, stupid mistake that hurt someone that u cared about, it's that kind of awful feeling.
 
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