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New to this , first time ive joined a forum. Hoping to be able to open up and realise that im not alone in how i feel , that other people understand because in my life thats not the case . No idea where to start...
 
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Hi there and :welcome:to the forum :) Where to start, start with what is either bothering you the most or what is setting you back the most, or perhaps just a quick introduction. The choice is yours, the when is when you are comfortable :)
 
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Hey kezza. Welcome!
 
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Hi :welcome: kezza

This page has some info if you've not used forums before > Click

Have a look around :)
 
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I keep writing what i want to say and then deleting it as feel silly !! Its so hard to explain how i feel. Maybe i will have a read about first and get more comfortable
 
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Honestly, theres no need to feel silly. We wont judge. I hope you feel more comfortable to post once you have had a little browse.
 
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Having a good look round etc. sounds like the right thing to do ;) don't worry about sounding silly, we all do that, and seriously no one knows your true identity and no one here is likely to judge you either :)
 
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Thats why i thought this would be good for me and why i joined .. actually being able to speak to people who have been through similar situations and understand how you feel and seeing how other people feel and how much support and advice there is . Its just hard knowing where to start
 
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I keep writing what i want to say and then deleting it as feel silly !! Its so hard to explain how i feel. Maybe i will have a read about first and get more comfortable
Ah, don't worry about it, there's no rush, and generally no easy answer to a lot of things!

Some write huge posts when new, as getting everything off their chest in one. You could try that, everyone is anonymous in here anyway, so perhaps it might help? :)

If you feel silly, then I'd listen to that, and get more comfortable with the site first.

The chill out section is a good way to get used to the site, and meet other members :)
 
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When you are ready I am sure you will think of something :)
 
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Thank you for making me feel better about this
 
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Lol, you make it sound like we are doing you a favour ;) Just relax and be yourself :)
 
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Its just so hard to be myself cause i havent been for so so long now and ive went from being at the lowest and hardest point in my life to actually finally getting to a better place and thinking i was coping , who was i kidding!! Can see how bad im getting again and cant control it , the difference in my life now and what makes me realise how far ive come is that i can accept and admit that im not ok , that im struggling , that i cant cope and thats ok? Its ok to not be ok . I think thats the first and most important step .. for me personally it has been . So now its finding ways to cope and how to deal with how i feel and opening up here could help?
 
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WOW, great post (y):clap::respect: and wasn't you yourself throughout ;) Yes it is okay not to be okay, and exactly who is perfect anyway? I'd imagine perfect to possibly be quite boring :p The fact you can accept and identity things aren't quite right is HUGE :) In my opinion next is understanding what isn't quite right and then set about finding ways of tackling and beating it, which may well mean a trip to the Doctors etc. :)
 
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