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Moo52

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So I've just joined here, and looking for others with BPD for any support or advice who have experience with BPD or a diagnosed with it.

I'm currently going through the process of being diagnosed but I'm 99% sure the outcome will be 'you have BPD'. As much as I'd like a diagnosis to open doors for group therapies etc I'm still terrified of being diagnosed as it's life changing, and I've never felt more alone than I do now.

My relationship with my partner has been strained due to my behaviour for a while now, and previous relationships with lovers and family have been too in the past. I meet 7 out of the 9 symptom criteria of BPD and have only recently heard of it since going to therapy.

And also recently I discovered my partner had text inappropriately with another woman a couple of times since we've been together and even tried to arrange to meet up while I was away with work. This is obviously a living nightmare with my emotions, fear of abandonment etc but nothing physical ever happened and we're now going through couples therapy for it. The therapist suggested reading 'Stop walking on eggshells' and it's interesting but also feels slightly offensive too so I'm not sure how helpful it will be for us.

I'd just love to hear others stories of hope and getting through the hard times to know that I'm not alone in how I feel and there is a light at the end of the tunnel so to speak.
 
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Hello Moo52, welcome to the forum I think you will like it here as everyone is so caring and helpful towards others.
 
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Hi Moo52, welcome, I'm sure you'll find supportive like minded people here.

The book you mention is aimed at partners of people who have BPD, not for people with BPD, as far as I'm aware. I'd say don't read it because it may be painful to learn how 'outsiders' (anyone other than ourselves) struggle to cope with people with us. :low:
There are plenty strategies about for you to learn how to control your urges, emotions etc in healthier ways. It's hard work but worth it. Good luck!
 
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Hi Novastars, thank you for the welcome!

Yes it was pretty hard to read and felt like it more of an offensive thing against us than how to live with a loved one who has BPD!

I hope my therapy will help guide me in the healthier coping strategies, and maybe my diagnosis will open up doors to more help! Thank you again ☺
 
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I hope my therapy will help guide me in the healthier coping strategies, and maybe my diagnosis will open up doors to more help! Thank you again ☺
Good luck with therapy, I hope it will make your life easier. :)
 
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Does anyone know a BPD specialist therapist in Glasgow?
 
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