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New country, new problems



Oct 30, 2019
Hello all,

I need to get this frustration off my chest and if anyone has been through anything similar please make yourself known! I'm starting to feel like I really am the only one floundering through the day!

I've recently moved to the UK from the states and it's finally sunk in how absolutely clueless I am here. Back in the states if I absolutely had to go into public and do adulting things, I could barely manage. (Thank the stars for click and collect shopping, and kiosks instead of speaking to a real human!)

I'm in a smaller borough in the middle of England, and I stick out like a sore thumb the moment I'm forced to speak. (apparently, I'm one of the only Americans now living in this area.) I knew going into this that my new husbands family have been here generations and everyone knows them. However, I didn't realize that would mean complete strangers know of me and will single me out in public to have a chat about how is xyz family member doing and how am I finding my time here.

Got a call- (my in laws would rather call than text, which also is high on my 'oh please God no' list)- from my mother in law asking why I've been "cutting off conversations and purposely keeping my earbuds in when I'm at the shops, and don't I know that's rude here?" -_o

I'm really starting to think becoming a hermit is the only way out of these awkward situations.


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May 14, 2019
A galaxy, far far away..
You have to realise that being an American instantly makes you interesting to people here. To start with, your accent alone will be fascinating because it's different, and most people won't have had the chance to talk with someone from the US. I can understand how this could be a bit overwhelming.
I would love to be thought of as interesting, with people actively wanting to talk to me, rather than me always having to initiate contact.

But if you're uncomfortable with this situation, have you tried explaining to your in-laws about your anxieties? I really think you should have an open conversation, because it appears they are not aware or do not understand the issues.
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