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I have struggled for 30 years at least with issues that were called depression and anxiety, medication resistant depression and anxiety, then on to bipolar 2 with med resistant depression and anxiety, and now on to BPD. It has evolved and I do believe that the more I learn about BPD that I am sure that is what is going on. I've found a therapist and meds doc that I am optimistic about. The biggest struggle I am having at the moment is trying to get my head around the talk therapy/dbt stuff. I have such a negative view of a lot of it because it never worked in the past. I like to think that I am still trying is a good thing, it is just so frustrating that I seem to be "stuck". I have myself so convinced of certain things that some of the talk just in one ear and out the other. I want to change... have a better life... actually live my life. I haven't read through a lot of things here yet. Just wondering if anyone can relate to my therapy struggle and maybe give some advice what to do.. My therapist wants me to make a list of things i want to work on and prioritize them..... I was like... they are all important/bad. So yeah.. that's where I'm at. Thanks in advance for any feedback.
 
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Hello and welcome to the forum. It is likely therapy has not helped you in the past as you did not have the right therapy for you. DBT is designed especially for BDP so this will be different from your past experience. With therapy I think it is important to be honest and have trust in the therapist. That has helped me in the past. The homework they set is challenging because it goes against our way of thinking. It sounds to me like you are doing your very best and you should be proud of that.
 
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Thank you for your reply. I know that there are some differences in therapies. I am hopeful that the course i'm on with the new docs will work out and that I can finally make some progress.
 
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It is lovely to hear you have some hope. I am hopefully for you too.
 
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I was diagnosed with BPD in the 90s. I began DBT in 1999 and it has changed my life. It's not perfect; there are still trying times (eg. yesterday I kept thinking about work all evening but I used my DBT skills to catch myself and refocus over and over and over). It takes work but it's better than just constant ruminating without stopping. I hope you can find a therapy that helps you out .
 
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I know I am going to be struggling. I am sure that a lot of others feel that their situation is impossible. I feel like my outer shell or "traits" that I have created to cope/survive are so ingrained in me that I can't imagine how this is all going to work. We'll see. Thank you for your response!
 
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