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New agoraphobic

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outofstep

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Hi,
New to online forums but I’m finally starting to make attempts to manage my agoraphobia because it’s been getting worse and really limiting my life.
My main issue is driving. Specifically intersections where I’ll be trapped in between cars. This started maybe 5 years ago. I had a panic attack in an intersection and although it ended up being ok, the anticipation ended up causing more frequent attacks in that same situation to the point where I haven’t put myself in a position where I’ll be trapped in between cars in about 4 years. I take backroads and side streets to avoid this and any sort of heavy traffic. And of course, the more I avoid, the worse it’s getting.
Since becoming aware of my agoraphobia, other situations have affected me. I started cbt a few years ago and have, for the most part, tackled lineups in grocery stores, some open public space areas, some meetings at work/seminars if I’m near an exit. Recently had to leave a movie theatre. The usual stuff.

Anyway, I know I need to expose myself to these situations,
Build confidence and practice managing my panic to that I can eventually do the dreaded intersections so I’ve been recording notes in my phone of my small feats.
This introduction is likely messy and unorganized but I’m just typing as it comes to me. If there’s anything missing that’s usually said, lmk, and I’d like to hear where some of you are at with your agoraphobia.
Thanks 🙂
 
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Hi outofstep and welcome to the forum. I fully understand the driving anxiety after being involved with a double decker bus. It took me months before I would drive again and then I would turn off if a bus was behind me. In the end I just persevered and went down the road of the accident and although it wasn’t nice I did it a few times and it became easier. Avoidance will only embed deeper into you and make driving more difficult. I still don’t like driving but know it is a necessity . Maybe go thru the intersection with a trusted friend that understands your anxiety

Daf
 
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Thank you for your response. I’m so glad you were able to work through and manage your situation. I tried recently with a friend and shut down before even reaching the intersection by letting the anticipation drain me completely. But I will try again soon!
Hi outofstep and welcome to the forum. I fully understand the driving anxiety after being involved with a double decker bus. It took me months before I would drive again and then I would turn off if a bus was behind me. In the end I just persevered and went down the road of the accident and although it wasn’t nice I did it a few times and it became easier. Avoidance will only embed deeper into you and make driving more difficult. I still don’t like driving but know it is a necessity . Maybe go thru the intersection with a trusted friend that understands your anxiety

Daf
 
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You’ve got the right idea it took me several attempts but as soon as I saw the site of the accident I panicked . It took three or four attempts but once I done it i made a point of doing it a couple of times a week until my confidence came back.
Just keep persevering and you’ll manage it eventually

Daf
 
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You’ve got the right idea it took me several attempts but as soon as I saw the site of the accident I panicked . It took three or four attempts but once I done it i made a point of doing it a couple of times a week until my confidence came back.
Just keep persevering and you’ll manage it eventually

Daf
Very good to know. Thanks for sharing. Appreciated.
 
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I let it take down my life. I am just now leaving the house regularly to take a class but yeah I want my previous confidence and ease back.
Happy to hear that you’re taking the class. Pretty big if you ask me. Classes can be difficult and getting there even more so. So good for you. Proud of you tbh
 
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motorway driving can be a huge anxiety thing with me and not every time. ive driven when having high anxiety which was absolutely terrible i can tell you.

anyway i took some CD's to listen to that were not distracting. and i listen to classical music when the radio allows as it keeps changing stations on its own lol

so that helped me enourmously but it might not work for everyone.
 
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