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never talking about myself for fear of being judged

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sport541

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I have ways been so shy that i have always avoided talking about myself for fear of being judged...now i want to talk more about myself but i am scared of people getting upset at me for never telling them things before.
some "friends" and people ive known for years dont know that: -my oldest brother is a phd living in USA - i have a sister - my parents own a business - i travelled to europe and asia -what high school i went to - i was in a fraternity
some things i would like for example i lied that i went to a public school instead of a private schooolfor fear if being judged as rich
anyhow, do you think people will be ok with me starting to talk more about myself? or will they be angry that i have never told these things?
 
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blacksmoke

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hello sport gosh you sound so lonely cos keeping it all in for fear of others is miserable. please do start to talk to people. after what is life about if not spending time with others ( which btw i find hard to do at times have to work at it)

i imagine that the people that you know will know that you are a private person not given to talking much and that is shame because, and i am surprised that they are still in your life, people can loose interest when others hold back
 
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Lora

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Hi I understand the reasons why you have kept information to yourself as we live in a judgemental society. None of my friends know my background story as I think they would run a mile as its not what they would expect as I paint a pretty picture on the surface to hide the reality. But I was struggling as I felt I was living a lie so I wrote a book intend to publish it one day. However a friend found it when she stayed over at mine without my knowledge. She read it and could stop crying. I asked her why she was crying and she said I found a book the story's heartbreaking but most of all it hurts me that you couldn't trust me to still care and love you no matter what or where you come from or how rich or poor you are . I think she highlighted I never trusted myself to be open and honest with her nor anyone else I knew ,because of a fear that they'd view me differently and I would not be accepted . I've learned now to be me and to tell the truth at least then I'm free not living a lie and I will know those who stick with me are genuine. I feel now honesty is the best policy as I deserve to be free to just be me. You do too true friends will not judge but accept and love you no matter what. 😊
 
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