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Bebe13

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Feeling in a dark place these last few days. Suffer from depression and anxiety and just feel like my life is absolutely going no where. I have 3 beautiful children who keep me going. But I have been with my partner for over 10 years and he doesn't want to get married. Don't know whether I want to get married because I love him or it's just something to do. I feel feelings for someone from years ago who I have always loved but never had a relationship with yet he is married with a child but I constantly think about him.
Just feel like I need to get this all out. I just want to be in a dark room at the moment by myself without any thoughts at all!
 
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Mayflower7

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Hi,
Welcome to the forum, sorry you suffer with depression and anxiety.
Well done on having three beautiful children.
Hope your relationship works out.
Take care
 
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Poopy Doll

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Hi Bebe, welcome to the forum. It's just a fantasy you're having about this other man. What you need to figure out is why you are depressed and anxious with three beautiful children and a man. The fantasy will not help you. If you act on the fantasy your life will turn to shit. Trust me on that.

You say you feel your life is going nowhere. Do you have any hobbies or plans for yourself ?? While my kids were growing up, I had gardening and photography for myself. Once I took a college course.

I live with a man for 23 years now and he doesn't believe in marriage. So I accept this. I don't make an issue out of it. We're pals. We're growing old together.
 
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your_name_here

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Marriage isn't for everyone, it doesn't mean your relationship is any lesser than others who are married, I don't believe anyone should get married if they really don't want to or don't see the point. Love is far more important than a piece of paper and a ring.

Maybe you are looking at your ex with too much nostalgia and rose tinted glasses , you know like when we think programs or clothes or music from our childhood were great because they remind us of good times but in fact they weren't all that great!
 
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