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Amber1964

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I've been trying to process some abuse memories. But. I'm having self harm urges. I feel like I'm such a bad person.
 
Lunar Lady

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I've been trying to process some abuse memories. But. I'm having self harm urges. I feel like I'm such a bad person.
Hello, Amber! :hug:

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time.

Would you like to chat and get your mind off things? The urge should go with distraction. xxxx
 
Amber1964

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I think I could chat some. I've been processing some abuse memories. And, feeling scared and panicy. I feel like it was my fault. That I should be punished, because I'm bad.
 
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I think I could chat some. I've been processing some abuse memories. And, feeling scared and panicy. I feel like it was my fault. That I should be punished, because I'm bad.

If you were abused, Amber, it wasn't your fault. I promise you.

These are tough memories to deal with on your own. :hug:

It wasn't your fault. xxx
 
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If you self harm, you are allowing your abuser to hurt you again and again...

The difference is, your abuser is using your hands to harm you with.

You have nothing to feel guilty about and you don't deserve punishment :hug:
 
Amber1964

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Thanks for being so understanding and helpful.
I was abused by my brother, and stepdad. My ex-husband was abusive.
I'll share more about it another time.
 
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Hey, i have also been strugling with self harm, would you like to chat? i want to listen to your story and give you suport. :)
 
Amber1964

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Hi, how are you today? I'm doing ok. I would love to chat. I'll send you a PM later today. Please pm me anytime. I would like to offer you support to.
Take care, Amber 🐈
 
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Prycejosh1987

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I've been trying to process some abuse memories. But. I'm having self harm urges. I feel like I'm such a bad person.
You are not a bad person, If you have been abused, try to work on moving on from your past as i do. I renew my mind and heart daily. Get some closure or justice on the situation.
 
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