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Need some advice



New member
Jan 6, 2019
I have recently been diagnosed with GAD, but I have been suffering for years.

Just before my diagnosis I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. I feel I am holding her back from moving forward with her life. I desperately want her back but I feel like that is a selfish choice only helping myself.

She did not want to break up and will take me back. I just can't bring myself to do it. I feel like I will weigh her down and hold her back. Or we will move forward and further down the road when we are ready to take the next step, I will get scared and run again.

I don't know what to do I am all over the place up and down.

Any thoughts or insights anyone could provide would be much appreciated.


Well-known member
Dec 17, 2018
California, US
Hi and I'm sorry to hear you're struggling with anxiety symptoms. I'm also diagnosed with GAD and depression and sometimes, I try to reduce the number of people I deal with daily when I feel like my emotions are unpredictable.

You've been diagnosed and that's helpful because now you know. Have you told your girlfriend? In your consultation with the doctor, was any medicine prescribed to help you manage symptoms? Have you had a conversation with your girlfriend about what kind of suppor you may need as someone who struggles with mental illness?

It's my opinion that if you give your girlfriend all the information you can about your condition and tell her that you'll do your best to explain when the symptoms have made you behave a certain way, then she can decide for herself whether to remain in the relationship.

Many partners find it isn't too much of a burden if it means they can be close with someone they care about. In fact, sometimes it can being two people closer together.

I hope you find these perspectives helpful in considering how you want to go forward.


Active member
Jul 24, 2017
I agree with the previous poster. If you have informed your girlfriend about GAD then she has the info she needs to make her choice.There are many people who choose to enter relationships that are challenging and are very happy. Maybe allow her to make her choice and the work together to resolve any issues just as all committed relationships need to do.