- Oct 27, 2020
- Charlotte NC
Me and my wife are currently separated for 3 months. We have been together for 8 years and married for 3. She was diagnosed bipolar about 4 years into our relationship. For the past year her drinking got really bad and around last January she stopped taking her medication. Things went down hill from there. I got in a bad depression just dealing with everything then got sent home from work for 3 months during the covid crisis. She had a bunch of things happen towards the beginning of June that sent her further downhill. Her drinking got worse. She moved out at the end of August siting that I was the problem and she needed to try to find her happiness. Of course I told her not to leave. And just talking it didn’t seem like the decision she wanted to make. But she moved out a week later. So I started getting myself together and got back to a good place where I need to be. After she moved out she was already dating somebody within a week. And he is the complete opposite of me has three baby mamas and lives in a trailer and works third shift. And one of her complaints was that I work too much and was never there. But all her family members have reached out to me And asked me what’s going on with her and the decisions she is making do not seem like her whatsoever. They think she is making a huge mistake with the guy she’s dating and just in general With all the decision she’s made lately. We still talk want to twice a week and she still calls me when she’s super depressed and tells me she doesn’t know how to do life without me and then it’s a complete 180 2 days later she says she needs space. She has been posting pictures with this guy and two of his kids on Snapchat and Facebook all the time from what I’ve heard and her friends say she does not look good. Basically they all say that she completely downgraded leaving me and going to this guy and he is not anywhere close to her type. I still try to be there for her when I can but can only do so much if she’s dating somebody else I have to move on with my life at some point. My big thing is I don’t know where to go from here of course I would love to have my wife back. But I don’t know how to get to that point or what the best course of action is. In the end I just worry about her well-being. And she has threatened scuicide in the past but I’ve always been there to help her thru it. She has pushed away a lot of people that care about her and she has moments of clarity when we talk where she seams to regret the decision to leave but seems to not know how to come back. I assume this relationship she’s in is just to not deal with the pain of the break up and so she doesn’t have to be by herself all the time. But it’s definitely not healthy. Like I said I’d like my wife that but whether we get back together or not I just want to make sure she’s gonna be OK.