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Need help with how to deal with new anxiety

Sammyjames97

Sammyjames97

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I used to have social anxiety as a kid and it was real bad by 18 but over time through therapy and pushing myself I was getting better. Sadly I became ill 2 years ago with psycosis and when I started hearing voices I started believing the whole world is full of mind readers. Although my voices are reducing to sometimes being none existent i still carry this belief, sadly this has exacperated my social anxiety as my thoughts are sometimes negative and I don't feel I can control them all the time. This creates a train of negative thinking and what ifs and wondering what they may think or feel from what's in my mind.

I had a way of dealing with this once by using logic like "I've still made friends that aren't put off by my mind" and also "my family are loving so they obviously don't care" this helps but only with the past as in new social situations I can't use this logic as well, any ideas what you would do.

I know you may think mind reading isnt real and I'm deluded or something but how would you approach this if you were me? Cheers
 
OCDguy

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From your current social circles. Are they acting any different towards you ;) Are you able to share some of these thoughts which are troubling you (no need to go into detail). I doubt if these thoughts should be causing you as much anxiety as they are ;)
 
Sammyjames97

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Not that I can tell, i just hate the idea of someone thinking bad of me because of my thoughts that are out of my control.
I'm worried if I think negatively about someone's appearance or attitude they will get upset or offended, sometimes you can't help but look at someone and think something. There's other stuff but its hard to remember maybe I should start writing it down to help me think about it
 
OCDguy

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If you opened your mouth and made these comments known, you could have a point, but you don't and you haven't, and believe it or not, there are people who wouldn't think twice about doing such things... All this self-consciousness must be exhausting, and holding you back. Have you approached a Doctor, perhaps they can give you something to turn your thoughts more outward than consciously inward/awkward.
 
Sammyjames97

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I've had a doctor for a while do to my psychosis and they gave me anti psycoti a bit they did more harm than good and made me a monge that was a bit dull and flat so i think my relationships would suffer. We decided to chance my recovery on just anti depressants alone but it's been a bit of an up down rollercoaster situation overall. I'm doing a blog at the minute to document my days an stuff which may help a bit
 
OCDguy

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You sound like you have a element of control going on there :) If you can find a way to discard these thoughts just as soon as they come into your mind, it will probably help a lot :) Remember it's one thing to think these thoughts, it's a totally different thing to say them, and who knows your opinions may be valid, just keep them to yourself :p
 
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