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just post here Fancyharm,
when you feel like contacting him, contact us first !

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Good morning.

Well slept some of last night.

My own fault for getting pissed off about letting a dick head get in the way of my life.

But thanks to discussing my feelings on here I feel more positive. I just need to retrain my brain.

This person is an arsehole and has lead me on and now decided that I am surplus. Oh well, it happens, and that person that I trusted with my feelings has turned out to be a fake.

Truth is he has all the time in the world to bother with me, but he chooses not to. He doesn't want to be just sociable and friendly and adult about the situation because that doesn't even enter the equation. He is so shallow that he doesn't even see that he has lead someone on and dropped them.

Oh and heaven forbid, he cannot just be that adult person, the being friendly type because it might just lead me on and give me the wrong idea!!!!! But he cannot tell me he isn't interested because it might 'hurt my feelings!!!!! Oh the get out clauses for him are never ending. Well congratulations to him, he is just another ARSEHOLE!

If my comments above are making you laugh then at least I have put some positive back into the world. Which is more than I can say for him.

Love to you all and have a great day xxxx
 
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n yeah ... you wont be able to change someone like that
and he might be ill
I have certainly been in all these kind of situations

what I would do is make it back into a friendship,
be close friends for a while, so you can help each other
and it helps to create a bit of a boundary
while you decide what to do

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I agree Zoe, be friends. But he doesn't want that. I just get one word answers to texts and the answers aren't that regular. So nothing to be friends about.

I just need out of the situation now. I won't text him.

I would rather make friends on this forum. Plus there is something to be gained in getting stronger and not texting him.
 
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Well I've been ok and long may it continue, no texting that is.

Really hope I am stronger now.

Hope you are all having a good day. XxxxxX
 
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Truth is he has all the time in the world to bother with me, but he chooses not to. He doesn't want to be just sociable and friendly and adult about the situation because that doesn't even enter the equation. He is so shallow that he doesn't even see that he has lead someone on and dropped them.Oh and heaven forbid, he cannot just be that adult person, the being friendly type because it might just lead me on and give me the wrong idea!!!!! But he cannot tell me he isn't interested because it might 'hurt my feelings!!!!!
I'm not laughing. You've been hurt by someone, and I understand. Maybe your partner is socially avoidant or maybe he's a player. I can't really tell just from what you've written. Men do have a tendency to crawl off into the cave from time to time. And then, heaven help the woman who wants to communicate with them.

If he's interested in you, you'll know about it. Otherwise, forget him. Take some you time to care for yourself.
 
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I text him yesterday to say that my texts not being answered needs to stop. I said if he wanted to.get in touch he knew my number.

I haven't text since and unless he sends me anything I will not text him.

He won't bother to send anything, he has been distant for ages.

He's wound things right down and then says I'm reading too much into that! The proof is that he hardly responds or sends one word texts!!!! Anyway, so what now, I've told him and that's the end of it. He can get his ego boost elsewhere, I'm not wasting my energy anymore.
 
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Thank you MPheonix.

That''s really kind of you, I appreciate it.

Stuff him now. I have had enough. No point bothering as nothing is coming back, so basically there is nothing to bother with.

Weird person, leading someone on like that. I'm glad I have more about me than to mess with someone's feelings.
 
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Well I still haven't text and he hasn't.

Hopefully I will remain strong.🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻👍👍👍👍
 
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Struggling slightly tonight. I think I will remain strong but I just feel a bit low.

I'm trying to be positive and think of the plus points in my life.

I'm much better than I have been treated and I should remember that always.

I need to think of myself and use my energy on myself, not waste it.
 
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Struggling tonight. It's a gloomy night, dark and raining. Perhaps that is somethi g to do with bringing my mood down.
 
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You already have one arsehole in your life, Fancyharm, and its on your body, you do not need a second arsehole :grouphug:

(i hope this makes you laugh, its supposed to be a funny) :grouphug:
 
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