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Fancyharm

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I am having problems with takers, my partner is a taker and I've has enough.
 
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People leading g me on just to.use me is the problem. It's not right. I can't see how I keep on attracting such people.
 
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Why can't people just be straight and say what they do or don't want. Then I woukd know where I stand.
 
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well some of us are ' co-dependent '
which means we are addicted to helping other people
at the expense of our own needs

in my case this stems from having both parents
who were 17 when I was born
and both emotionally unstable

so that from day one I was care taking them
 
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Too true. It's sick. And I'm the one stressing about it, what a joke I am.

Why not just say don't contact me again or even block me. No, he would rather just keep receiving my texts, how nice for him.
 
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Too true. It's sick. And I'm the one stressing about it, what a joke I am.

Why not just say don't contact me again or even block me. No, he would rather just keep receiving my texts, how nice for him.
what it shows is that you care about people, it does not make you a joke :hug:
 
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Thank you to all who have helped me tonight. I appreciate it.

I have to start changing the situation and not text him.

I did do this once and he totally shocked me by encouraging me in a big way. Couldn't believe it. I doubt if that will happen again, if he would encourage me.
 
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I am signing off now to try and sleep. I just hope I am stronger in future. I need some sort of replacement therapy to use each time I feel the need to contact him so it stops me from getting in touch with him. Please advise me if you can and I will check back on here tomorrow. ❤❤
 
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I am signing off now to try and sleep. I just hope I am stronger in future. I need some sort of replacement therapy to use each time I feel the need to contact him so it stops me from getting in touch with him. Please advise me if you can and I will check back on here tomorrow. ❤❤
if your stuck, maybe pm someone on this forum instead of texting him? :hug:
 
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