- Oct 19, 2020
My wife and I have been married 24 years. We have a 20 year old daughter who was diagnosed bipolar about 4 years ago. Two years ago she dated this guy for like a month and eloped. Son in law has a disorder that causes him to have seizures. About 5 months after they married they got pregnant so now we have a grandson. So they have all lived with my wife and I for this 2 years. Neither daughter or son in law work. My wife has assumed the raising of the grandchild. Grandchild sleeps in our room so that daughter and son in law can stay up till late hours watching Netflix and they don’t get out of bed till noon most days. They do absolutely nothing around the house. They cook late at night and leave their mess in the kitchen for us to cleanup. The issue I am having is that I believe we should be expecting more from our daughter around the house and the raising of her child. But if I say anything to my daughter she blows up big time starts texting my wife saying I was yelling at her which I was not. My wife then starts angrily texting me about getting on to her. Everything can be calm for a few months as long as I do not question my daughter and let her have her way. But we had a recent blow up again. My wife believes the relationship between me and my daughter is too toxic so she said maybe we need to divorce so that I am out of the house away from daughter. My wife has stated she will do absolutely everything to keep my daughter happy since she is bipolar. Oh yeah one more thing my wife said that my daughters therapist told her we should allow my daughter to sleep in and that we should give her money so she can go do fun things so she doesn’t get depressed. Is this normal advice? Is this really the way doctors want to handle bipolar? I would think part of the goal of treatment would be to help that person gain some normalcy and hopefully some independence. Maybe I just don’t understand enough about bipolar and what my daughter is going through. Maybe I am supposed to let them run the house and the rest of us just need to fall in line. Looks like either that or get divorced.