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Need For Love & Affection

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sci31A

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Can't seem to get rid of this feeling/pain.

I have spent my entire life alone, never known affection, comfort or love from a woman. It leaves me feeling hurt and I do start falling down the path of self destruct & depression.:BLAH:

Kinda at a loss really, I always find my self back here gutted, hurt and in pain.

True enough I always bounce back but still.........:cry2:
 
SomersetScorpio

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I'm sorry you've not met the right woman and that you're feeling this pain.

Love and affection are so important. I wish there were some way that each person could get the love and affection that they need - I feel like so many people are walking around with a hurty heart feeling and desperately need a hug.

I know the pain of not getting any love or affection from the opposite sex, and yet I suppose a part of me is too scared to receive that.

Whilst it's obviously not a romantic connection, have you ever thought about getting a pet?
Pets can offer an unconditional love that a lot of other humans can't.. it's just a thought.
 
nonotme

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just wnat to say, its not all moonlight and roses, relationships can bring more trouble than they are worth. many 1000's of people now choose to live on their own.

I'm sure if you have that much to give you could look online at the many dating sites but I'd be very careful as there could be people willing to take advantage of you.


Me.
 
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I've given up on love and affection.

It's never going to happen, who would go for me anyway. A blind person maybe, if I'm lucky.
 
Mister.B

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Despite me being caring and funny and all this stuff.....I'm a terrible lay now and my looks are fading.

So that's it, shallowness and sex wins out over my charm, I'm alone forever.

I don't even care about the intimate side of things that much I only want to be wanted. :low:
 
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I cringe and find it so disrespectful when a person says someone's bad in bed - it takes two to tango, does it not?
Sorry that's not sticking to the original topic, but don't let that sort of thing get to you, Mister B.:hug1:
 
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All I can really add to this is that I know where other posters are coming from... I'm fortunate in that I have had a proper relationship, but that ended ten years ago, I haven't had a date in nine years, and the last time I approached anyone she came to despise me for my feelings :(

Every so often I meet someone who's really nice, and who seems as though their standards are reasonable, but - guess what?! - they're already with someone. Every fu*king time, there's always some other fu*ker who's got there first...

To echo khuang, I also don't really see the point in bothering anymore... unfortunately, I do have certain drives and I'm not dead from the waist down, so it's not as simple as cognitively 'giving up' and getting on with life, which I sometimes feel is what people expect me to somehow do.

It's not just about physical affection and exchange though... I want to share my life with someone, dedicate myself to someone, grow old with someone. It's all I've ever truly wanted, in fact... I'm still left genuinely aghast at how so many people somehow find careers more 'meaningful' and 'fulfilling' than relationships.

I cringe and find it so disrespectful when a person says someone's bad in bed
Reminds me of a former friend of mine... in fact, it's actually part of the reason she's now a former friend. Talk about someone changing quickly... I remember her once saying that there's no such thing as bad sex because at least you're getting sex, but just a couple of months later - after receiving a bit of male attention and letting it go to her head - she was laughing and joking about how crap a specific bloke was between the sheets with another girl who'd also been intimate with the same guy. I honestly didn't recognise the person I was listening to, and I didn't much like her either... we weren't friends for much longer after that.
 
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If only a person's inner-beauty matched their outer beauty... :BLAH:

... Sorry, that's a bit random of me.
 
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If only a person's inner-beauty matched their outer beauty... :BLAH:

... Sorry, that's a bit random of me.
The way I see it, enough people are sufficiently shallow that the outwardly beautiful have little necessity - and therefore motivation - to develop any inner beauty they might be lacking.
 
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Awww, I'm sorry. I know it hurts. :hug1:

I'm afraid I'll never know what it's like to be loved romantically. I feel like guys are repulsed by me or something, like they get a glance at me and automatically think "ewww." Most of them probably wouldn't touch me if their lives depended on it. I feel so ugly and undesirable. I've looked in the mirror at times and just started crying. I get occasional hugs from my mom, which are nice, but that's literally the only affection I'm shown. That's it. Oh well...at least a girl can dream...:low:
 
maybe.shes.a.wildflower

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just wnat to say, its not all moonlight and roses, relationships can bring more trouble than they are worth. many 1000's of people now choose to live on their own.
Agreed!! 9 years in a relationship that was rushed as I settled for him thinking I'd do no better, pushed to get a house, fell pregnant. now I feel I'm trapped here overwhelmed with the proceedings to escape!
Being in a relationship is not a mh cure!! If anything it has helped send me right to the edge of my sanity!!
 
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nonotme

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Being in a relationship is not a mh cure!! If anything it has helped send me right to the edge of my sanity!!
maybe it me and I know i am also guilty of this, but I really do believe people expect too much from another human being. the whole male vrs female roles etc.

I'm a shitty man with a broken mind, but show me anyone better?

for me 50% of relationships are built on lies anyway, maybe 25% work one way or another and the other 25% are doomed.


sorry can't see much positivity today.
 
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I woulddo anything for most people and I'm disappointed when it is not returned. I do the shopping, cleaning, money budgettin, cook the meals. We both work full time he recently has started to help as he knows hes looseing me but before then he did his hobbies and as he pleased. He'd begrudging do car things for me 8f I nagged eno7gh
 
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