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alexNY

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I have a friend who I'm totally sure has an eating disorder. I'm really worried about him and I don't know what to do as I've tried everything I can think of.

He barely eats anything, he obsessively checks the calorie content of what little he does eat. He also exercises excessively. It's not out of the ordinary for him to do several gym glasses in a day and top it off with a run.

He's so underweight that he looks seriously ill. He's stick thin but still thinks he's fat and has described himself as a whale. Every time I try to speak to him about it, he just laughs it off and makes out as though I'm exaggerating. If I try to be more assertive, he just gets defensive and we end up falling out. He ended up in hospital recently due to chest pains whilst exercising and I thought it would finally be the wake up call he needed, but it's gotten even worse since then. He pretended the doctor said it was something totally unrelated, but I don't believe for a second that a medical professional wouldn't have expressed concern at his weight.

He's an educated person and can be a bit stuck up, so I think he just believes that he knows better than everyone else. He posts on Facebook several times a day to inform everyone how much exercise he's done and I know other people are concerned too, but they don't really know him as well as I do and I'm really worried. He just thinks he knows best and won't listen to anyone that tries to speak to him about him. I've tried speaking to his family but they're too soft and won't side against him.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I just don't know what I can do. It's so obvious that he needs help but he just won't admit it.
 
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Hi AlexNY and welcome to the forum.

It's so hard helping someone who doesn't think or admit they need help. It sounds as though you are doing all of the right things and, more importantly, you're being supportive and a good friend.

I don't know if any of this will help at all:

National Eating Disorders

ANAD - How to help

Eating Disorders Support

There are quite a few helpful tips and info on these sites.
 
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